a friend of mine when talking about her daughter on facebook posted this.

"Every day I ask her "Are you pretty? Are you smart? Are you kind?", which she responds yes to each"
It's no wonder kids are so narcissistic.

Eh. Sounds more like the mother has zero confidence and is trying to make sure that her kid isn't as timid

Raising children is incredibly hard, cut some slack

🤷

she's not timid

yeah no that just sounds like overbearing parenting

Praising your kids for something they did well = good
Praising your kids for the sake of praising them, every single day = too much

mine was on the other end, no praise ever

I think it's imporant to reinforce the good things
Your kid gets an A? Scores a goal for his team? Plays a particularly difficult song? Good shit

yeah aim for competence not confidence

Both are important but confidence is different from narcissism

And it usually comes naturally out of competence so you are right

there's earned confidence and unearned confidence

I.e. hubris

basically

A word that has sadly fallen out of use.

and unfortunately my friend is setting her kid up for hubris in a big way

Yeah sounds like it.

Much better would be at the *end* of the day: did you do something smart? Did you do something kind?

a shame because I like my friend despite being rather lefty she's never blocked me never ignored me, I can challenge her on stuff from time to time and not have her completely sperg out

yeah that would be better

Female culture nowadays seems like it's all about *unconditional* positive self-regard which is so masturbatory

Rah rah girls are great

Even when they are acting like shitheads

And boys suck even when they are trying their best

the comments were much the same "I'm going to tell my kids the same" and "we need to tell our girls this more often" that kind of shit

So counterproductive

Focus on actions and results

@uncephalized check picture links

i slept 23 hours yesterday, I've been awake for maybe 3 hours today and already ready for bed again, being sick suuucks

Drink water you'll be fine.

What the hell 😭 there was a meetup in Raleigh and no one pinged me

Michael you meanie

Whoever you are

Is there a place to see when one is planned?

As far as I know you just put your info down on the spread sheet and either wait to be contacted, or make it happen yourself.

I guess I should have put more contact info in my entry in the spreadsheet. Didn't put phone number or email address, just Discord handle

So that's a bummer. I was really looking forward to when there were enough Raleigh-area people to organize a meetup, and now I missed the one that just happened!

It'll probably happen again if it happened now and was successful

Yeah but the issue is whether or not I'll find out in time (i.e. not after the fact when I listen to the Sunday show)

Stupid question, where is the spread sheet?