Well, yeah, a partner can't and shouldn't be a substitute for an actual therapist

Bu it doesn't mean they shouldn't help at all

Yeah. So many people nowadays get overwhelmed over the silliest shit in a relationship, emotionally. Like oh they can't handle hearing about their partners childhood trauma. Like the girl on Reddit who broke up with her bf because she found out he'd been raped.

That's depressing

What a cunt

Also a bit different though

Real doomer hours in here.

Like, you'd probably view the story differently if it was a pattern of him constantly feeling dejected and carrying around residual trauma and asking her to validate him

I never took issue with my ex's mental illness, I've sorta made my peace with the concept that I'm very likely consigned to a fate of being with somebody mentally unwell.

Since it's 2019 and everybody's crazy now.

Because that becomes cyclical, and then a burden, which is a bit more legitimate than just having been told about a specific trauma

everyone constantly carries around residual trauma

Apparently they'd been together a while and he opened up to her about it

its nothing new

You gotta get on that "be there for them, but don't treat them like a baby" thing.

It's one of those AITA posts I think

I've only broken up with one other person because he used his trauma to hurt others. Like threatening suicide when I tried to leave him.

Right, so she found out he'd been raped, couldn't handle it, broke up with him

She said it emasculates him to her

My friend had an ex like Pam.

Sadly it's a common story. When I tell other girls they're like oh yeah I had an ex like that

It became a weekly thing, she'd get hammered and then scream at him to come home or she'd kill herself.

Sounds like Necros ex

That's different from someone who can handle the trauma but doesn't want to deal with constantly validating someone who is not actually changing

She fuckin drove 20 minutes, drunk as fuck, out to where I live just to fuckin scream at him when we were hanging out once.

Damn sounds too much like Necros ex

Yeah she had the BPD bad.

BPD is one hell of a drug

My friend dates a lot of crazy girls come to think of it. <:woke:403676040343584770>

Wiz you go too easy on these demons

He's probably a bit nutty himself

Glad I only fell for a depressed sadgorl Austrian and not a BPD thot.

he's probably emotionally vulnerable

Well, I think it's mutually parasitic I guess

Nah, actually my friend's as normie as they come. The worst he's got is divorce and the occasional Irish-style beating.

I kinda threw myself on the grenade because I was a dumb 18 year old who thought a cute punk guy was what I wanted. Little did I know...

I've known him since the 3rd grade.

Met lots of girls who feel their worth in the relationship is directly tied to how comforting they are

you can be a normie and emotionally vulnerable

Tato your friend sounds like a too nice guy

Bpd thots love that shit