and they like call but if you dont answer they just come over anyway

and like if you dont answer your door they like knock on your windows and shit

thats fucking wierd, right?

like im not asshole here, am i?

this friend of mine like straight up he will call me

and ill be like "yo im busy right now"

and then he will come over anyway

and want to hang out for like HOURS

just now he called i didnt hear him call so he came over and just like i guess he knocked on the door but i had headphones on

so he like knocked on the window of the room i was in

and its like "oh i just wanted to show you this light i have"

and im like "yeah ok its pretty cool, cya"

yet now i feel like an asshole because hes obviously going through some shit

hes someone ive known for like 10 years but this behavior is new as of like a week ago

i dunno maybe im just being an asshole

Generally, behavioral shifts that happen quickly like that aren't a great sign. But no, expecting your home to be treated in a more respectful manner than if you were just hanging out in a cafe isn't being an asshole. On the other hand, he might just have trouble reaching out or figuring out boundaries. Odd, but not ill will.

yeah

ive been trying for a few days now to set a boundary like "today we will not hang out, we will hang out tomorrow"

but every time ive said that hes come over anyway

and ive given him like cursory attention, like hung out with him for a few minutes outside

but ive relented a few times and let him hang out inside for a while

and i mean the last two times he came over it was with some pretty flimsy excuses

like he wanted to show me a light he wired, and he wanted to use one of my tools to cut a circuit card

Hello everypony

and i think hes just lonely or something

i tell him "yo man you need more friends"

and thats like a pretty blatant hint you know

but hes like "i dont need friends"

and its like

no you do

i need you to have more friends

its sad i need to figure out what his issue is

this isnt normal

Yeah, unless there is something outside of that influencing him to not want to be where he would normally be. Age makes a difference here. A teenager might be having issues at home, a young man might be struggling to connect with people socially. An older guy, it's almost always a loss of some kind (in my experience.

Also, hello Dotty

yeah hes about 32 i think

im 35

i dont know of any losses hes had

i was thinking that too

Right, that's a tougher one then.

like that he had some kind of loss but i cant think what