sexual intimacy has three main facets: physical, emotional and spiritual. When these three come together in the marriage bed (or on the marriage couch, or marriage back porch) we experience a holy and pure intimacy found nowhere else.
When we separate these three facets we bastardize the God-designed plan. But when we stay inside this triangle of sexual intimacy we're actually free to enjoy foreplay, flirting, and sex with our spouse in many different ways.
If the idea of using a sex toys is for solitary self-pleasure I caution you to pray about how conducive it is in bringing you closer to emotional, spiritual or physical intimacy with your spouse. On the other hand, if husband and wife are using sex toys as a way to enhance their time together and there's no dependence on the toys for orgasm then this is something they could be considered beneficial.
Sex and intimacy are reserved for one man and one woman in a marriage covenant. So when we bring in sex toys are we bringing in another to our marriage bed? That depends. Vibrators are certainly not another person yet if there's a dependency as we mentioned above, it can detract from your partner and take the focus off intimacy them.
There's little evidence, even in secular circles, that shows sex toy addiction but there are many reports of dependency which is often championed by the world as empowering. The ability to reach ultimate sexual pleasure without a man is a feminist nod.
if you are using sex toys without your spouse's knowledge it is wrong. There's a total lack of intimacy and honesty which is not healthy for your marriage. Enjoying sex, taking some risks and stepping outside your comfort zone are not bad things
