Message from netgearblackhawk in Nice Respectable People Group #general
she got off easy
When you have a wife and kids, you want to avoid c-section as much as possible
iirc scheduling c-sections was very en vouge in the 90s
because it let doctors schedule when their patients would give birth
C-sections will put you out longer. I was under the assumption that once you had one you could not have another baby delivered naturally.
Since you're cutting the uterus or wte
No, it's very possible to do a VBAC (vaginal birth after c-section)
But most doctors don't want to do it
and will fight you on it tooth and nail
I guess that's why they decided to discourage us from even getting a c-section in the first place
Yes, if at all possible, vaginal is better
c-sections dramatically increase the risk of placenta previa and placental abruption in later pregnancies
Placental abruption is where the placenta detaches from the uterus and your baby loses the ability to receive oxygen/nutrients
We lost our 3rd baby because the placenta partially separated from the uteran wall.
Aww, I'm sorry 😦
It's okay. It was 2014. It hit my wife much harder than me.
Yeah, we carry these little ones inside us for 9 months
It's a special connection
how many children do you have?
We have 3. First two are boys, 8 and 6, and a girl, 4
Funny, I'm actually getting surgery to undo my vasectomy
Why did you have one?
Yep, after our last child I was burned out.
I wish I didn't get it done but here we are
Nothing to do for it now
Except try to reverse it
Yep. I was lucky and our insurance will cover it.
It would be about $8,000 out of pocket to have the surgery
That is expensive. More expensive than my birth at the birth center. I decided to go with midwives instead of an OB/GYN because I didn't want them to pressure me into interventions I didn't want to have
The whole thing-prenatal, the birth and postpartum will be $5750
Crap that sounds a ton better than going through what me and my wife went through
I haven't had coffee so it's not my fault that sentence is terrible
btw, I don't know how you're managing without coffee or any caffeine.
I do have a little coffee a few times a week, usually 6-8 oz. It's safe to have up to 200 mg of caffeine
If you guys conceive again, I would look into the midwives in your area
I know she really wants to go to a midwife but it was pretty expensive at the time
I have heard so many stories of OB/GYNs blatantly disrespecting women's wishes that I don't ever want to birth at a hospital.
Imo, they treat pregnancy like a condition to be treated and not a natural process that women have been doing forever
Yeah, I think you're right. That's pretty messed up.
In hindsight, it was like that when my kids were born