nerd back in the day meant you were weird because you are into anime video games and D&D now that stuff is fashionable so it's lost any semblance of meaning
Anyone who claims they aren't trying to generalize all men is lying, and only brings up examples of what "isn't toxic masculinity" as an ad-hoc argument to reassure people who they oppose politically
this is a standard way of making meaningful things less meaningful to allow you to present different intentions to different people about the same statement
when those same people talk to fellow "social justice" activists, they clearly think of it as a way to give their ideological opponents some sort of righteous comeuppance.
toxic masculinity is, for public consumption, the subset of expressions of masculinity which are "toxic"; and to radfems, the "toxic" is as redundant as the "machine" in "ATM machine"
"There's good behaviour, and there's toxic behaviour. I categorize everything that is horrible into the 'toxic' category and everything that I don't like as a dogwhistle symbolizing what is in the 'toxic' category."
The term toxic has always been nothing more than a soft way to say "cancer", but it pretty much just means whatever progressives dislike within traditional masculinity, males, heterosexuality, traditional femininty, etc.
