Message from ZerioctheTank in Subverse #general


2019-01-29 17:27:04 UTC  

having worked in psycho-social oncology, there is SOOOO much guess work going on in psychology today

2019-01-29 17:27:29 UTC  

And wouldn't certain circumstances cause one to shift more in one direction? An abusive parent or living in a communist society for example.

2019-01-29 17:27:47 UTC  

that's why I added stimulus of a certain magnitude

2019-01-29 17:27:55 UTC  

like reinstalling the operating system

2019-01-29 17:28:20 UTC  

Its just a bit alarming when you realize most of who you are and what you think about is completely out of your control and a lot was decided before you were born

2019-01-29 17:28:36 UTC  

a lot of people can't accept that

2019-01-29 17:28:49 UTC  

it keeps me up at night

2019-01-29 17:28:59 UTC  

Existential dread

2019-01-29 17:29:33 UTC  

I know i have a lot of habbits my parents have

2019-01-29 17:29:33 UTC  

Some of us tried to rebel and act differently than our parents, but we may be more like one or the other or even both of them than we care to admit.

2019-01-29 17:29:50 UTC  

I think once you can make certain acceptances, you can actually use it to your advantage

2019-01-29 17:30:11 UTC  

Or maybe even a great grandparent

2019-01-29 17:30:32 UTC  

I know I am the way I am and most likely, that isn't going to change barring some radical event. So instead, I try and focus on analyzing why I behave the way I do and how I react and adjust my environment accordingly

2019-01-29 17:30:52 UTC  

I try to do thar

2019-01-29 17:30:58 UTC  

It really helped me deal with crippling insomnia

2019-01-29 17:31:05 UTC  

But i overthink and over worry about everything

2019-01-29 17:31:10 UTC  

<-- I feel you

2019-01-29 17:31:23 UTC  

What if im unable to avoid the sins of my father

2019-01-29 17:31:31 UTC  

That they are inevitable

2019-01-29 17:31:31 UTC  

Add me to the overthibk group as well

2019-01-29 17:31:50 UTC  

I spend more time in my head than I do living in the moment.

2019-01-29 17:31:58 UTC  

Well actually sins of my mother

2019-01-29 17:32:06 UTC  

oh, I hate the sins of my father and I hate more that I started down that path myself without realizing it.

2019-01-29 17:34:16 UTC  

this is going to sound really dumb, but for me, attending Church really helped. I'm REALLY not saying it's for everyone, but making myself beholden to a group greater than myself, even voluntarily, has helped me deal on a day to day

2019-01-29 17:34:56 UTC  

guess the bias. Which site is conservative and which is a liberal based on their headline of the same story?

‘Empire’ cast member alleges he was attacked in Chicago

'EMPIRE' STAR JUSSIE SMOLLETT
VICTIM OF HOMOPHOBIC ATTACK
By MAGA Supporters

2019-01-29 17:35:05 UTC  

Just... lol...

2019-01-29 17:35:11 UTC  

You're getting structure in your life, a higher purpose if you will.

2019-01-29 17:35:18 UTC  

Nothing wrong with that

2019-01-29 17:35:19 UTC  

yes, that's it exactly

2019-01-29 17:35:32 UTC  

it doesn't have to be Church

2019-01-29 17:35:46 UTC  

just structure, responsibility, support, etc

2019-01-29 17:36:00 UTC  

I need responsibility in my life

2019-01-29 17:36:49 UTC  

I think everyone does

2019-01-29 17:37:17 UTC  

But only as much as they can handle; maybe a tad more for growth. Otherwise you risk breaking them

2019-01-29 17:37:52 UTC  

I went to a private Catholic Church from.1st grade & all through high school. There's nothing wrong with religion IMO since I truly think that most of them are giving people a purpose in life per se. I study Stoicism as a "middle ground" for religion since I too feel like I need a purpose.

2019-01-29 17:38:09 UTC  

I don't think I articulated my thoughts that well there lol

2019-01-29 17:40:08 UTC  

haha no worries

2019-01-29 17:40:16 UTC  

Religion in and of itself isn't bad. Religious extremism is the bad one.

2019-01-29 17:40:35 UTC  

^

2019-01-29 17:40:55 UTC  

Agreed