If a woman is offended you want as much assurance that a child is yours as she has, don't be with her

I'll clarify that to say that if she's offended but accepts it and doesn't hold it against you, fine. But she also should understand that it has nothing to do with her personally, it has to do with being secure with your relationship with your children and raising your family

That's what I've always told my partners regarding kids

I just hope she doesn't tell at me

In hate fighting

Having arguments occasionally with a partner does happen, how you both act and deal with them matters more than what the argument is about usually

I wouldn't suggest anyone remain in an abusive relationship

Yeah it sucks being in an abusive relationship

I'm glad I've only been in one briefly. And then it was only mild emotional abuse and stalking until the end - which is when it all blew up and I got basically #metooed with a false allegation over email.

I’m sorry to hear that.

Ah, well, as long as it never ends up public I'm happy with us avoiding each other.

It probably will end up public eventually, but my side of the story is a lot more consistent than his. And I may still be able to find the sim with the texts on that prove he's a massive liar.

I just wish I hadn't forgotten about the dating app evidence because he tracked me down in real life and basically admitted it on there - but I deleted it ages ago.

wow, sucks that that happened...probably nothing bad will come but its definitely good to be prepared

Exactly.

Major problem is that he has a thing for being humiliated. I can see him trying to #metoo me publicly just to get the backlash. He's kind of a messed up person.

I really pity him - which is what got me into this problem to begin with.

But yeah. Anyone else want to share their own crazy messed up relationships? No pressure, of course.

i had a stalker once, but we were never in a relationship of any kind. I have no idea if that actually counts but it's the closest I've got.

Never a nice thing. Did yours follow you around too?

Or just wait ouside places?

wow thats really scary

he lived across the country and at the time was going to law school, so no (he was twenty two, i was twelve). but he knew where i was almost always and constantly threatened to rape me in front of my family then kill them. he was a total psycho.

Yiiikes.

Wow.

That's some major asshole.

I'm really glad he didn't. Did he ever get arrested?

nope. i was far too scared to bring it up to anyone. i had also convinced my seventh grade self that i was blowing it out of proportion. he killed himself.

i’ve only just begun to bring it up to my family in the past year

That's some trainwreck. At least he didn't kill other people, as far as we know.

Agreed. The whole situation honestly didn’t take as much of a toll on me as people assume it did. I always tell myself to be grateful he never actually traveled to where I lived.

I hope you are feeling better about it now. It's got to have really messed you up, having that kind of thing over you.

I am not a councilor or anything, so apologies if I have said anything wrong here.

No it’s fine you’ve honestly responded a lot better than most have. My brother just said “that sucks man”.

Ah, I'm sorry to hear that. I guess most people don't really know how to react to this stuff - myself included.

He probably just doesn't really know how to talk about it.

I wouldn’t either, honestly. I told him, he told me it sucked, and everything was good. I didn’t expect anything else really.

I'm going to have to go to bed now - work tomorrow - but I do wish you better experiences in the future. Hopefully we can all put our bad times behind us.

Agreed. Goodnight and hope you sleep well!

Goodnight.

You too, for whenever you guys go to bed. 😃