i’ve only just begun to bring it up to my family in the past year

That's some trainwreck. At least he didn't kill other people, as far as we know.

Agreed. The whole situation honestly didn’t take as much of a toll on me as people assume it did. I always tell myself to be grateful he never actually traveled to where I lived.

I hope you are feeling better about it now. It's got to have really messed you up, having that kind of thing over you.

I am not a councilor or anything, so apologies if I have said anything wrong here.

No it’s fine you’ve honestly responded a lot better than most have. My brother just said “that sucks man”.

Ah, I'm sorry to hear that. I guess most people don't really know how to react to this stuff - myself included.

He probably just doesn't really know how to talk about it.

I wouldn’t either, honestly. I told him, he told me it sucked, and everything was good. I didn’t expect anything else really.

I'm going to have to go to bed now - work tomorrow - but I do wish you better experiences in the future. Hopefully we can all put our bad times behind us.

Agreed. Goodnight and hope you sleep well!

Goodnight.

You too, for whenever you guys go to bed. 😃

Nn

Someone tried to #metoo me as well. I wasn't even in a relationship with her I was just renting a room from her.

How did that work out?

She basically sent me this crazy email with accusations that i had "turned violent" and was "obsessed with her family". Also threatedned to go to get a protection order against me .

This was over me not taking the trash out yet one morning. I was sick and they weren't coming for like another 6 hours.

So I moved in to a hotel

It's good nothing further happened then, no sense staying around that

She ended up losing her house

Presumably through something unrelated?

I think she lived with her mom now

Lives*

She hadn't paid her mortgage in like two years

Maybe the trash you left in the house that time started a fire and it burned down

Oh ok

The whole point in me renting from her was so she could keep her house

I was trying to help her

She had this son story about having been abused by this long list of dudes

Then I realised I was going to be the next dude on the list

I find that usually when someone says that every other relationship has been abusive toward someone it's usually them that has the problem

Yeah true

You were already friends before you rented a room from her then?

I knew her a long time ago. We were romantically involved one summer .

Then no contact until a few months before I rented a room from her

When I say a long time ago I mean like almost 20 years

Wow, usually if you lose contact with someone that long you never manage to even find them again

There's a certain person in the Netherlands I wish I knew how to get hold of. Oh well.

Hi all

Good morning