@GingerSnaps love is not complicated, the reason we struggle to define it is it barely exists in our current society

yeah that's a valid point

it does, but it s not what we define it to be

easier said than done due to the complexity of both on their own, nevermind when trying to understand them as a whole.

Pragma: a model of love as two people may demonstrate during a lengthy marriage.
They tend to select and reject partners accordingly based on what they perceive desirable, compatible traits.
*Pragmatic lovers want to find value in their partners*, and ultimately want to work with their partner to reach a common goal.

it s a chemical reaction in our brain that induces behaviours 😃

@Gaarak to me that is infatuation

its simply based on survival and the protection of it.

@Gaaraklove is more of a decision followed by actions

To me

@Reaper lel, just looked it up online and we dont seem to have a word for this in french

Yeah, i'm with reaper on that one

oh yeah we do, but meaning seems to be different ...

*La petite mort* @Gaarak

@Gaarak love your ds9 nick!

like the saying goes, love is blind...but then again, my love for my son isn't blind but can induce very tough decision making processes.

@Gaarak infatuation is like the instant feeling of attraction and being drawn towards somebody without explanation

From French: the little death. *"the brief loss or weakening of consciousness" and in modern usage refers specifically to "the sensation of orgasm as likened to death.*

@Reaper but i also meant, not only passionnate love, even bro-love and the different kinds, it s all reactions in the brain, not something magical and ideal, it s biology

@Reaper i believe infatuation is more based on subconcious wants and needs being fulfilled,without the conscious mind being full aware of their need to be met.

fully

with enough training you can bypass the lizard brain

@Robin song I see that as valid as well

the mind is much like a console

you can program yourself

mind - blown

with a shotgun?

@Gaarak see that's the thing tho when it comes to brotherly love I choose all my friends based on things we have in common then I choose to treat them well, I think only the love of women and love for our children are the only biological ones

with love gun

aww

here u go ❤

@Reaper i meant love for my biological brother actually 😃

@hel you see that with this trans bollocks, boys and girls can be conditioned to be the opposite. But, the catalyst for their biological truth will always try and present itself no matter how much it is surpressed.

@Gaarak oh ok agreed

@Robin song what you got against trans bigot?

what about technological brother

@hel I think this realisation will soon change with gene editing rearing its head

the answer is not supressing

@Reaper but true friendship scores pretty close to love imo

for now the answer is mindfulness or distractions

just put the anti love goggles