@Null can you explain

Great! I love being honest with myself and looking at my dark side

your shadow self are all the dark qualities that you have that you are hiding from public eye

I believe you gotta take the whole

it's all your repressed anger, desires, traumas, true feelings about people, etc

@Null I think you're saying to not take compliments too seriously. I don't. Except it's people who actually know me

women give compliments as a way to test the waters. If you take them they'll think you are starting open up to them and they'll do what women do best and nag

it's a sly shit test

things you don't want other people to know about you. The goal of shadow work is to integrate it into your being in order to become a whole person -to be completely honest, authentic to yourself and other people

For some reason dishonesty and honesty sound different... Or I should say I can often tell when someone is getting dishonest. Flattery doesn't work for me

Flattery is empty, don't trust it

@Sigma exactly be humble, draw no attention to yourself be formless and shapeless because only then will you be free

That’s true^

I believe in being honest @Sigma partially cuz I believe in reciprocity or some call it karma at times: if I want good qualities in my mate, I should have the same qualities in myself. If I want people to be kind and honest with me I should be the same with them

why do you think women blow so much smoke because it doesn't mean anything

I'm working on humility and not showing off

from OMG BFFs to that fucking bitch in an hour

@ValleyAnt women aren't like that, they fake it to make it

It's not hard to see thru women when you aren't too busy lusting for them

But when it comes to compliments, take them with a grain of salt. and some thing with criticism, don't take either too seriously

There are still some old-fashioned women around

I like old fashioned women

@ValleyAnt NAWALTS do not exist

that's like 5% though

I don't care for compliments or criticism that come from people who don't know me

^

New to this, what's a NAWALT

especially those people because they could have ulterior motives you don't know about

Yep

@ValleyAnt how did you stumble upon this server?

Sometimes I'll confront people when they say fake things... Like a "How are you" might get a "Not well, and you?" from me

@Null thru MGTOW

flattery and incessant compliments can destroy someone. It plays on their pride and self-esteem until they bring themselves to a fall because they got too full of themselves

@ValleyAnt I get that but how did you physically get here?

Yeah, I don't do pride. I do reality. That's why flattery nothing for me and I sometimes call fake flattering frauds in their falsehoods. Lol

Smart move

The more reality one can get, the better

@Null a link on YouTube I think

@ValleyAnt ok, tell me what you think about removing the women's vote

One of the things that turns me off about most women is their fakery. It's not their fault initially since women must pretend to be nice all the time (I HATE that)... but then they take that initial expectation and run with it. Before long, they don't know who they are. They only know how to play and pretend and perform and posture

@Null removing women's vote where