tfw going in on my failure of a father after basically ten years of radio silence

family relations are hard

nice

I love him, and I treasure the few good things he's done for me and taught me, but the vast majority of when he was still in this country he was a colossal narcissistic fuckup

One of the strongest memories I have of him is when he was sitting on a chair next to a light switch, and called me over from the other side of the house to turn it on.

That was probably when I completely shut off my love for him, and disgust/pity/ambivalance set in.

My father's just a layabout that's only ever done work or anything other than watch television if my mother nagged and yelled

He only ever disciplined my siblings and I if she made him too

how I hate that kind of apathy

It's really damaged my ability to learn to be a man

On the other hand I know what _not_ to do if God blesses me with children

@ChuuniMage Continuing here. As in all things regarding arguments, there are simpler parts, and other not so simple parts. Theology is not needed, people are only require to acept the principles of faith.

Now you can always find problematic cases, both in someone who takes things too far and creates complexity for the sake of it, and someone who dismisses all reasoning about principles of faith as bad

I'm not interested in making either of those mistakes, and I was very fond of doing the former, and since I'm trying to pull away from that, I don't mind if along the way I make some mistakes that conform with the latter

My mother made me fearful of women growing up

I spent close to 4 years of not talking to her when she moved out for work

My father left for a "business trip"

Never saw him again

My mother was yelling at him during a phone conversation

She asked him if he had a mistress

His reply: "what, a man can't have a girlfriend?"

damn, why would a married man want another woman as a girlfriend? there are easier ways for suicide

My dad wanted to leave my mom for a prostitute lol

Dang dude. That's scary

Restlessness or dissatisfaction probably

My mom had my dad snipped after my sister was born

My father had an affair before I was born

I was the product of my father deciding to quit being a degenerate, pretty much

My mother became a workaholic when I was a baby

and when I was a bit older, she turned herself into a high-functioning alcoholic

My mother was forced to pay the bills *and* be a full time parent

damn son, lord have mercy

Despite all her own problems, mainly acceptance of heresy and softening on shitlib ideas, she is a good woman

Not sure if my dad has ever done anything, he's too simple minded and weak willed
My mother on the other hand, twice

If only her strong faith was in a proper church

Both of my parents are engineers

mom was an athlete, weightlifter

Ah my father is an engineer

My mother was a music major and still works despite being well past retirement age

She actually went back to work the day after giving birth to me

Lol