I wouldn't want to pick someone with that but I have my own issues so I'm not sure it's fair of me to demand more normality

I may have a bit of a thing for afflicted girls as well

Hoo boy

I just want to care for them, you know?

Yeah I understand

I've had that attraction in the past

But it made me learn the hard way, it's a terrible reason to pursue a relationship

Definitely is, and what I would consider a valid dating pool has shrunk considerably over the years

and I'd need to step up my shit a lot before I would consider myself reasonable husband material

I've got a lot of years of degeneracy to undo

My dating pool currently is non-existent. I'm gonna have to move to another region or unironically get on orthodox and single

My priest actually met his wife on eHarmony while he was in seminary

That's lovely

I'm skeptical of dating sites but as long as they're not tinder etc I guess they could be considered the modern equivalent of a newspaper ad

But I'm uncomfortable just approaching women romantically. I prefer to befriend and then see if they might make a good lady

tfw going in on my failure of a father after basically ten years of radio silence

family relations are hard

nice

I love him, and I treasure the few good things he's done for me and taught me, but the vast majority of when he was still in this country he was a colossal narcissistic fuckup

One of the strongest memories I have of him is when he was sitting on a chair next to a light switch, and called me over from the other side of the house to turn it on.

That was probably when I completely shut off my love for him, and disgust/pity/ambivalance set in.

My father's just a layabout that's only ever done work or anything other than watch television if my mother nagged and yelled

He only ever disciplined my siblings and I if she made him too

how I hate that kind of apathy

It's really damaged my ability to learn to be a man

On the other hand I know what _not_ to do if God blesses me with children

@ChuuniMage Continuing here. As in all things regarding arguments, there are simpler parts, and other not so simple parts. Theology is not needed, people are only require to acept the principles of faith.

Now you can always find problematic cases, both in someone who takes things too far and creates complexity for the sake of it, and someone who dismisses all reasoning about principles of faith as bad

I'm not interested in making either of those mistakes, and I was very fond of doing the former, and since I'm trying to pull away from that, I don't mind if along the way I make some mistakes that conform with the latter

My mother made me fearful of women growing up

I spent close to 4 years of not talking to her when she moved out for work

My father left for a "business trip"

Never saw him again

My mother was yelling at him during a phone conversation

She asked him if he had a mistress

His reply: "what, a man can't have a girlfriend?"

damn, why would a married man want another woman as a girlfriend? there are easier ways for suicide

My dad wanted to leave my mom for a prostitute lol

Dang dude. That's scary

Restlessness or dissatisfaction probably

My mom had my dad snipped after my sister was born