Message from @Marcus

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2019-07-18 10:21:03 UTC  

She is overcomplicating issue by attaching all kinds of baggage to it like "co-habiting", "relationship", etc

2019-07-18 10:21:26 UTC  

Marriage isn't for fun and games. It's a sacrifice.

2019-07-18 10:21:54 UTC  

You leave a part of yourself behind in order to become one with another person and build a future together.

2019-07-18 10:24:48 UTC  

Agreed

2019-07-18 10:25:10 UTC  

Feel like I'm gonna be opening a can of screeching worms once I say marriage is about procreation though

2019-07-18 10:25:23 UTC  

But I guess that's where the fundamental disagreement lies

2019-07-18 10:25:46 UTC  

That is entirely what it's for though.

2019-07-18 10:26:09 UTC  

The idea that marriage is purely a romantic gesture is an idea that was whored out by Hallmark and Disney.

2019-07-18 10:26:10 UTC  

And the whole reason that divorce has risen in the first place; people stopped thinking of marriage as being for children and rather just for warm feelings

2019-07-18 10:27:14 UTC  

Even when you read 17th-19th century literature talking about "love", their very core understanding of what "love" is is an entirely different one to the one we have now.

2019-07-18 10:28:03 UTC  

How so?

2019-07-18 10:29:35 UTC  

In the example above, people courted and experienced "love" in a very short space of time.

Essentially, "love" in such stories was merely physical attraction. However at this point, we didn't have the ideas of contraception and the separation of the sexual act for its intended purpose.

2019-07-18 10:30:27 UTC  

However, the understanding was you were attracted to people and you understood *all* of the ramifications of such attraction. ie. Matrimony, Procreation, the fading of your physique and appearance.

2019-07-18 10:31:01 UTC  

What people today see marriage as is an expression of that love, not as a progression of it.

2019-07-18 10:32:58 UTC  

That's a great point

2019-07-18 10:34:04 UTC  

Even on old movies they are in love and ready to marry after knowing each other in just a short time

2019-07-18 10:36:47 UTC  

It's why so many people get divorced these days, they've got this crazy idea that your marriage must be over when that initial attraction is over.

2019-07-18 10:37:16 UTC  

Basically, we have separated marriage from about 5 or 6 of its constituent (incredibly important) elements.

2019-07-18 10:38:36 UTC  

You also have to take into account that back in ye olde days people didn't take as many lovers as the average person would today. As such, despite the short courtship, they would've bonded far quicker than people these days could probably imagine.

2019-07-18 10:39:38 UTC  

"not only people interested in lifetime commitment should get married"
"not only triangles should have three sides"

Nigger, marriage is by definition a lifetime commitment that is needed to have an actual family, which requires the intent to have children. Remove any of these and by definition you don't have marriage, but a couple of retards using each other as human sized sex toys. Of course, these retards, who know no decency, or morals, or wisdom, are apalled by ideas like "responsibility" or "commitment". Don't like this commitment? Don't worry, you are free to practice abstinence.

2019-07-18 10:46:36 UTC  

Agreed

2019-07-18 10:46:48 UTC  

There will be much screeching lol

2019-07-18 10:47:34 UTC  

To be fair, I used to screech at that too

2019-07-18 10:47:48 UTC  

You still do

2019-07-18 10:48:09 UTC  

Not as much though! I'm getting better

2019-07-18 10:49:11 UTC  

One missing englishman says no

2019-07-18 10:51:40 UTC  

Englishman can go || redacted ||

2019-07-18 10:52:35 UTC  

I may try to fix that

2019-07-18 10:52:58 UTC  

If you wish

2019-07-18 10:53:08 UTC  

If you do try to fix it, can you also fix him being a condescending twat all the time? It irritates almost everyone

2019-07-18 10:53:38 UTC  

Doesn't irritate me tbh. I'm used to such attitude. Barely notice it

2019-07-18 10:54:00 UTC  

I did say almost everyone

2019-07-18 10:54:28 UTC  

Kek.

2019-07-18 10:54:40 UTC  

Did I miss the love-in?

2019-07-18 10:56:02 UTC  

Don't know what rubs you up the wrong way about GF, he's pretty sound irl.

2019-07-18 10:56:17 UTC  

He's fine in voice chat too

2019-07-18 10:56:36 UTC  

But in text, just the way he writes really irks people.

2019-07-18 10:56:42 UTC  

Bad chemistry <:thinksmirk:564102152239185920>

2019-07-18 10:57:02 UTC  

I don't mind him, in voice chat.

2019-07-18 10:57:03 UTC  

Tbh Wrath, I just think you don't like being told to behave yourself. <:ohyou2:569616856105877505>

2019-07-18 10:57:10 UTC  

SHUT UP CHAV