Message from @slvr_neo
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@slvr_neo would those philosophies be able to be changed?
Not if they are deep set for a long period of time. It would require something drastic. Like her environment requiring her to rely on herself, and no one else. Again, it's been her survival tactic
🤔
I'm trackin
You survive from strength from within, and networking with people who share those qualities. She survives by piggy backing off those types of people by playing off their compassion.
That's why I've been telling you to just do you rn Mac
It'll force her into that
She's never had to try another tactic
Been doin me buddy.... maybe I've been slippin?
@slvr_neo yeah, you're probably right on that.
Riddle me this, has she ever lived alone for an extended period of time?
@slvr_neo no.
Been with her since grade 10
@slvr_neo only bf she ever had.
I've had several ex gfs.
And before you she was with gaurdians?
@slvr_neo yup
Then she's been in a constant state of dependence her entire life. Independence is a skill she never has had to learn
@slvr_neo hmm.... yeah. Fair
Emotional independence is very important
And you've been the bread winner?
Fuck yeah
Her Bill's are phone, and .....medical debt.....and..... credit card🤔
Have you tried calling her the N word?
Hahaha
I can only be serious for so long lol short bursts of mental clarity then back to insanity lol
@slvr_neo its needed lol
If you're filling every need of hers all the time you're not doing you all the time
And she doesn't learn to fulfill her own needs
Correct
It is not your job to fill all her needs either
@Bodark Actual @slvr_neo
Makes me wonder if I am filling those tho. I dont feel neglectful by any means
@Bodark Actual oh I know
There's a girl out there how will drain your dick with her throat 4x a week minimum and still do her on the regular
And I'm that girl bro..
Hahahaha
>the truth hurts me
Lol
Bahahaha fuck, I had to
What will help both of you in the long term is if she learns how to be her own person
You will have to let her struggle with this
She needs to struggle
Even if it ends y'alls relationship...
Dont be obliged to continue due to time invested.. I've done some of my best personal growth following break ups. If the time comes when you realize she's not going to change, dont be afraid to walk away..