Message from @slvr_neo
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But fuck it still makes me nervous to have kids with the disconnect on philosophy
And will power
Fair on the smash part too
>neo typing
Hit enter occasionally so I'm not reading a large block text lol
She does those things to appease you when she senses she's pushed you to the edge. Hence the roller coaster. She's right back at the status quote after a short intermission.
@slvr_neo correct as fuck
Kids...oof.... different philosophies on a fundamental level would eat you alive because you'll want to pass on your wisdom to your children..
But her playing the victim will make you seem like the bad guy in the kids eyes
And unfortunately they will pick up on those traits from her as well, as children tend to cling to their mothers
Right
All things to consider
@slvr_neo would those philosophies be able to be changed?
Not if they are deep set for a long period of time. It would require something drastic. Like her environment requiring her to rely on herself, and no one else. Again, it's been her survival tactic
🤔
I'm trackin
You survive from strength from within, and networking with people who share those qualities. She survives by piggy backing off those types of people by playing off their compassion.
That's why I've been telling you to just do you rn Mac
It'll force her into that
She's never had to try another tactic
Been doin me buddy.... maybe I've been slippin?
@slvr_neo yeah, you're probably right on that.
@slvr_neo no.
Been with her since grade 10
@slvr_neo only bf she ever had.
I've had several ex gfs.
And before you she was with gaurdians?
@slvr_neo yup
Then she's been in a constant state of dependence her entire life. Independence is a skill she never has had to learn
@slvr_neo hmm.... yeah. Fair
Emotional independence is very important
And you've been the bread winner?
Fuck yeah
Her Bill's are phone, and .....medical debt.....and..... credit card🤔
Exactly, she's never had to rely on herself to survive.
Have you tried calling her the N word?
Hahaha
I can only be serious for so long lol short bursts of mental clarity then back to insanity lol
@slvr_neo its needed lol
If you're filling every need of hers all the time you're not doing you all the time
And she doesn't learn to fulfill her own needs
Correct
It is not your job to fill all her needs either
@Bodark Actual @slvr_neo
Makes me wonder if I am filling those tho. I dont feel neglectful by any means