a couple is two

its not about giving advice to the parent, its about mentoring the children of the single parent

So why mentor and not just find a good Godly spouse who will take the responsibility of being a father?

because this godly spouse would be better off having his or her own children

You don't have to make new children with a new spouse.

so if you find yourself as a single parent, my advice is to find a couple to mentor your child/ren

Why would I want a couple to mentor me as a single parent?

With your supervision, because you are still the parent.

you're not getting it.

That is bringing two additional people into the kid's life. No different than a spouse.

I'm playing 'devil's advocate' here.

Because if I let a couple mentor my child, I may as well give my child up to foster care.

I would say dont see a man unless you intend on marrying him and establishing him as a constant in your life. That would apply until child was an adult.

not quite the same, but maybe that's a good idea too.

@Deleted User That would be a good point before all of that transpires. But what about afterwards?

Afterwards what?

Sorry I just want to make sure I understand before answering.

I'll repost the question for you:
New question: According to Jesse, he said 'divorced single parents should not remarry'. In relation to single moms who are raising their children in single family homes without maintaining much contact with the father: what advice or counseling would you give to that single mother to help her raise those children right? (Remember, father is limited)

@Deleted User

hmm new answer, maintain more contact with the father.

I guess I dont understand question then. Lol I read it before and answered above.

Single family homes as in...?

@DasBoles I agree with that answer...

Like they have remarried

@Deleted User Statistically, 79% of kids grew up in single parent homes.

I am saying, if Jesse said that single parents should not remarry, and we have that insanely large statistic above - some born out of wedlock and some divorced. What can we do to diminish that trend? Starting with, what advice would we give single moms raising kids if they are discouraged from remarrying?

Is that clearer? I'm sorry if my previous question wasn't, guys.

It's hard to type a thought instead of talking it out.

Nah I'm fuzzy this morning lol

Lolz

Does that make more sense, @DasBoles?

I have a foster 'cousin' who grew up with my aunt and uncle in NJ. He turned out to be a good kid. It was tough at first though because he would be rebellious. They also got a second foster child and they had to take her back because she caused chaos.

I guess I would need more parenting experience to answer that question well. Lol I have no idea.

I am a product of a single mom with limited dad experience and yeah I have a few rough edges but mostly decent person. Single mom isnt Ideal but it isnt a doomed situation if mom is responsible and puts her kids in front of everything else.

Oh snap

I didnt tell you about my foster "cousin" 😬

Ooooo!!! 😯

I like your answer as well, btw. But now that you are older and much wiser, what advice would you give your Mom as she was raising younger you?

"Stop blaming dad for everything"

Would probably have helped a lot.

My thought is still the same, mentorship from an example of a healthy relationship can tip the scales towards seeking a healthy relationship, instead of only having the example of a single parent. Also i think it is important to be honest with your children, that single parenting is less than ideal, instead of putting yourself up as a hero, as many single moms do these days.