I just wonder if I can do it properly without first thinking about _what_ I need to forgive her for or not. I can remember little things. I know a couple of big things.

Hah true

I think it will come naturally when you start
As long as you're being honest and not trying to hide things you want to say to her

Sounds about right

Don't want to say*

That's how I imagine it

Like I've had conversations with my mother
She is so blue pilled
Plus I know she will reject everything I say
Blame my absent father, blame me and anyone/anything else

But I have to do it

You do

And ultimately it's not about her and her reaction right?

But about you and God

Exactly
That's what I feel Jesse is getting across to people who call up and are unsure of doing it

Aslong as you make things right

Doesn't matter what happens after

You made peace

But you have to mean it right

When I forgive my dad, I wasn't even planning on it, he just asked because I was talking about my mother. I immediately felt a release and a sort of joy, in my heart, like physically

I think that's why it's important to say it to them

you can't lie to yourself then

That sounds amazing
Did he take it okay?
But perhaps God was guiding you into taking that step also

Yeah he seemed very relieved

:)

It must take some weight off of your shoulders

Indeed

That's AMAZING :)

XD

Amaaaazin'!

The fallen state is AMAZIN'!!!
SUBZGRYBE NOW

I don't think it would change my relationship with him much, but I do think I want a DNA test, just to know

You definitely need it for closure
Every man/woman deserves to know where they came from

Basic human rights

Yeah I feel so

For sure

I was lucky enough to be contacted by my father when I was fifteen
But it didn't last long

Not sure if I would be in a better state right now if I never knew him

I can't say
But you should know

Do you think he's not a good person?

I can't say, he raised his own family
Left me a single child
Had two girls with another woman and they ended up bad like me
He has 5 kids now 2 step daughters and 2 boys and 1 girl who are my half siblings
They are raised well
With two parents
Me and my half sisters from other women are worse off
A good man would never of let it happen like that
So I would say no
I dont think I can ever forgive him because of what one of my half sisters has turned out like

But he was fallen from God, and knew not what he was doing

Well
I'm definitely ready to tell him about it
And why he is a child of Satan even if he doesn't know it
He my not be outright evil
But he has brought evil upon his children