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I appreciate the advice. What I struggle with relates to masturbation, or so that is what I think is the problem, so by that conclusion much of the pushing forward with the materials like studying for a test/exam sounds to me as though it is meaningless advice based on the thing that I think my problem is related with. @Head Scribe Drayanor @ResolvingParadox13

<:why:480186116222353410> this sounds so pathetic .

Nah man I think we can all relate

This would not have happened if I did not have a phone.

Or rather is it my fault?

So the question is, how you can discipline yourself to solve this...

Am not sure.

My advice to you: set restrictions on yourself. If masterbation, for one reason or another, happens to be your vice then make it a reward and not a habit. That's what I did when I was studying math and doing shit in the class. I would not do nothing happy for myself until I passed the test. Not finish my studying, not ending the night, outright passing the test with at least a B was how I motivated myself to indulge myself one way or another. Make the same logic apply to your masturbation and you'll not only do better in class, but have a habit to strive for your relief while simultaneously doing a lot better in class.

Yeah, best thing I can think of is like the above. Set aside a certain time everyday for this.

Trying to go cold turkey will just make it worse

Don't set a time, a set time means guarnteeing what will happen

Make it a reward, not a schedule

What does going 'cold turkey' mean?

A reward, right. Guess that's better....

Dropping it without weening yourself off

@Sparky Trying to quit absolutely right away

Yeah. Smokers usually try to quit by moving to Nicotene patches, and then reducing the Nicotine dose slightly over time until they don't need Nicotene at all anymore. j

Also, scare tactics work well also. If push comes to shoves, do a hail mary and completely break yourself. By this I mean masturbate to something so god awful that you would never find joy in doing it again.

Going cold turkey would just be ceasing Nicotene intake suddenly and permanently.

I feel like a disgrace to be admitting this here.

@Sparky You could try mindfulness meditation? It often helps externalize your addictions/desires

I had a friend who was in your shoes, I reccommended he do the deed to some disgusting ass content and he quit the day after and couldn't shake the feeling for a while. Now he only does itwhen he truly feels like it.

A core buddhist mantra is "The root of suffering is desire."

Yeah, I agree with that quote as well.

It's almost universally true.

If only you could separate your conscience from those debilitating desires... that is enlightenment.

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Desires are healthy, in my opinion. If you don't live to strive for something more than what you have then what are you doing? That wouldn't get us anywhere if we all were complacent in what we already have.

How come a person such as myself who didn't use a phone turned and would do purposeful actions, then turned into a piece of shit after he started using it often?

This is also true, you have to desire something better than your current situation... you're not living life otherwise

Is it my hormones of which every male soon received?

Dude, I don't know if am either finding something else to place the fault at or if I actually have a reason for saying those stuff.

It sounds like you're trying to blame everything on your circumstances. Sorry....

dude don't be sorry.

But, there is a reason why your desire is so intense- you've got be honest with yourself.

only then can you move on.

Or at least make progress...

I hate when people like my family or teachers blantently lie to me in front of my face to make me feel better.