@fallot hellstar guy is good but not Mercyful Fate good.

I've told him to find a Russian wife or something and just do it.

Also bill steer and Richard Brunelle

He's incredibly fragile in terms of his rigid life. I think he's afraid that he simply couldn't tolerate a wife or children.

He had an Estonian woman who would have come over and married him last year, he met her on a trip to Europe. He didn't do it.

He's often been unhappy, lonely. He used to be suicidal at times, calling my wife for solace. Unhappy despite all his money and "success.""

age?

I watched a robin bath and groom himself in the sun

42

that was the nicest thing I've seen in probably a year

Haven't seen the first robin of spring yet.

basically he's been conned by money and consumerism and individualism to not have a family.

like so may of our people/race.

poor guy

guys like him find out the hard way what really matters in life

I hope he finds himself a decent woman

which is itself probably a struggle

You are kind. I have a harder time being kind to him, since he regularly attacks and demeans me.

the traditional binds, once broken

they dont just come back

the old systems, unspoken

of finding good mates

they were never "in the open"

so when they are gone, people dont even notice

or dont miss them, until the need arises

I did not realize parental input in marriage was the rule in western society as well

until quite recently

yes.

how old are your kids @Jake Saga ?

I am a bit disappointed I had my first kid at 31

was gunning for 27-28 at most

didn't work out

I think there should be some allowance for later reproduction in "egghead" kind of people

who in modern times need a lot of education etc.

Allowance by whom?

but should still be well within 20s

in a social manner

i.e. if you dont have kids by the time you are 30

people should whisper

in your presence

and for non egghead types, early 20s at the latest for first child