you ever fly on a plane before

?

no

well

they tell you in an emergencu

air masks will pop down

and you can put them on as your descending

and they specifically demand that you put on your air mask before helping others

i thinks thats a pretty good analogy when it comes to supporting others

because from what i've been reading you haven't taken care of yourself

no. who told you that?

I'd rather help others, my life doesn't mean anything for me to care about myself enough

lol you're not gonna rather

maybe it might be time to cut the cord

no

thats a stupid premise to live by

I've tried taking care of myself before but I ended up getting called selfish and self centered

you have worth and its miles better than living to only improve others

and lost a bunch of friends I knew for eyars over that

how is it selfish to take care of yourself

thoae people are stupid and its good you lost them

listen

i'm only dropping the irony for a moment because I see a lot of parallels of how I used to feel and treat myself

no you're not

when it came to friends or girlfriends or whatever

i don't think you need to treat yourself so harshly, and that you owe it to yourself to not sacrafice sanity and sleep for others

Doesn't help anyway

No such thing as virtuous suffering. Not in this case anyway.

exactly

i always looked at it like this: if my girlfriend, friend or whatever was in complete anguish and pain, i want to help them, but not to the point where i'm in a worse spot than they are. i don't think it's selfish to care for yourself over others. big waste of time; nobody is happy in that situation

i know this is probably what you dont want to hear or read at all, but i dont want you to **not** take care of yourself anymore

Lots of people have told me that and I just, dont know anymore, I just really dont wanna lose shae

i dont know what your relationship to this person is, and frankly its not relevant at all. if this person has such an impact on the way you feel, i think you really need to re-assess your relationship with shae and consider if this is something you can live with for weeks, months, or years. I really don't see a future with the two of you, because either you will end up dead from malnutrition, sleep deprivation, or something else: and the other person doesn't sound like they are much better

I just don't wanna lose someone else that I care about, I already lost so many people this year and I cant handle another <:NotLikeMio:506851847848329216>

God date me already @ガブリエル・チャン

I understand losing people, and not wanting to lose more. I had friends move away, kill themselves, cut off contact for one reason or another, it sucks and **nobody** wants to feel alone. However, if maintenaning a relationship comes at the expense of your health, it's time to either do as I say above, or cut the cord and push that person away. Believe me when I say that you cannot sustain this kind of lifestyle, and that it **will** kill you if you let it.

God just fuck me <:orgasm:539943579645378560>

not a girl btw

idk

If you haven't had a conversation about this topic yet with the shae person, it might be time to do so now. Just so that the two of you are on equal ground, and then you can make a better/informed decision on what you need to do.

I have already