They need to be controlled sometimes, and they need to be let loose sometimes.

@Mimir's Elixir im not judging you negatively just making sure others dont see it as a solution to their problems as well by adopting your behaviors

if it works for oyu good

It definitely helps in some situations but I am also a normal person, I'm not going to tell my principal to go rot in hell when he pays my salary.

In an intimate setting where you're supposed to be yourself however... that's different.

but to pass off exceptions as "normal" is not the best, we need controlled emotions, productive energy. a man and wife should ideally never treat eachother poorly, arguing and fighting destroys a great deal more marriages than it helps as it is abuse coming from both sides. teaching children that it is normal is even worse than partaking in it yourself.

There you should be honest and authentically yourself.

and if it works for you good others may not have the restraint...being called a fucking jerk enough might make someone snap

Abuse is not what we do, but agian HUngarian temperament is different from american temperament

@Mimir's Elixir hungarians never get drunk and engage in domestic abuse then right..i mean it must only be an american problem

They totally do, but I don't drink.

whatever

ok so its not something that should be generalized

keep your own thingű

I keep mine

i agree

well dunno, people here insult each other here as a form of "love"

its hard to get back control of your emotions once you lose it, in the heat of the moment injury both mental and physical may occur...

if thats what people want to do that is fine however costly it may be to others.

firends constantly demean each other as a sign of endearment and stuff like that.

its a thing here

@Mimir's Elixir you might not understand that you are impressionable but would you want your future daughter to be in a relationship with someone that has your primal side...maybe it might not matter but only if you thoroughly vetted her SO...people take notice of others behaviors and that is why you shoudl act honorably

If the guy has MY primal side, than there is nothing to worry about.

if it has the primal side of a serial killer? thats a probléem

@Mimir's Elixir friends as kids demean each other ...would you let your friends demean you in front of your SO or your parents i mean its what kids do not adults

and i hate to reference molymeme but its like oh my dad yells alot i should look for a guy that yells alot too...not exactly making sure your daughter would grow up virutuous...and im not trying to pick on you i respect you but i also know that there are lurkers here and its a healthy discussion for them to see

its okay

violence has its dangers and its not for everyone

you arent violent either as i understand it

yeah

I never hit my gf nor did she hit me

i always warn people i know of what people will act like in the future...basically what will happen after your midlife crisis..im not saying you will turn into a wifebeater but its like how all the major islamists are over 50...its because that was their original personality that just got that much stronger after their midlife crisis

wow

we are all young here but time moves fast and it is important to recoognize patterns just like every other stereotype in existence

I suppose.

We have a saying : "The dog that barks, doesn't bite"

but it would also be stupid to say i approached the dog that barked at me i dont know why it bit me

Barking happens to scare away predators

but yeah

i see your point

and i definitely didnt mean you were a wifebeater...if you were into cars at this time in your life ..once youre kids grow up youd probably buy and fix up a bunch of cars and spend all your time doing that...its basically applicable to any hobby or personality..im just spreading my memes

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