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Heh, I get invited to a server that lists "gay" in the same category as "vore" under "disgusting". Hilarity. Also hello.

Did I miss how roles work? Usually servers have a role bot.

I didn't see it in the rules channel.

I found it just as you @'d me

I'm a dum

Guess I wait 24 hours then.

Thanks.

No idea. Someone on Gab.

Watches my stuff I guess.

Figured I'd poke my head in.

Science related videos on human behavior. Psychology mainly so far, but I do have a very diverse array of interests. Just no time. So mostly psychology as yet.

I rather rigorously delve in to the science, publications, etc. Actually read the literature.

Something most people don't do.

So far, also, a lot to do on loneliness, incel related (in that incels are lonely), things like that.

My boyfriend says I take too many words to say things >:I

Fix me I'm broken :p

If I'm a tourist can I wear a Hawaiian shirt?

Well, that's infinitely better than a lot of "criticism" I receive. So far only from people who seem to think the very _idea_ of trying to investigate whether something is true is a heresy.

Lots of them came out of the woodwork concerning corporal punishment.

Feeling a bit slow on a subject is always preferable to giving up and assuming superiority.

I mean, yeesh.

That's iffy. I've always read more than anyone else I've ever known. From fiction, to history, and so forth. I don't know how to "cultivate" it without a natural sense of obsession for learning. I read because I have to. Or I won't figure out how to know what's true or false. More information means more to work with. Means less mistakes. It means the best possible chance of seeing as much of the world as possible - and definitely do not discount fiction for this. Far better philosophy is written in fiction than in university.

Adolescent development isn't "kool" since they found out none of their studies on interventions validated. Buuut they still do on young children. Tabula Rasa springs eternal.

Hence why all those intervention studies try reaaaaaaaaaal hard to never longitudinally check beyond childhood.

And anyone who does realizes interventions do nothing.

Also, it's my general sense that people _hate_ teenagers.

Any wonder teenagers hate the world. Everyone hates them by default.

It's pretty despicable how we treat adolescents.

Anyone would, treated with such neglect or, even worse, dismissal.

"Oh, you're learning how to figure out the world? Fuck off until you do"

_So helpful_

Well, that and the rape.

Lots of that going on.

But as long as men are the ones being raped, who cares?

Highest rape stats in the nation aren't prison. It's Juvie.

That's the sick thing: Prisoners have recourse to the law.

The law rolls its eyes at teenagers.

I suspect more than several mysterious shank implements have been introduced to rape victims by someone's under-the-table idea of "fixing" the problem without reporting it.

Fixes two problems, right? Who cares if the criminal gets more time, right?

I know how this shit works. And there's a reason I have zero respect for the law.

You also see a lot of victims of Munchausen's by proxy.

"He's crazy. No really."

And how does a _not_ crazy teenager prove his _mother_ is the insane one? He doesn't.

He's never given the chance.

If he tries, well, he's a narcissist who thinks he's superior to his poor innocent mother.

Lots of very bad "psychiatrists" on government pay.

I do. And I want to burn the industry to the ground.

HELL no. I saw the product, I talked to them, I _listened_ and investigated.

And NOPED right the fuck off that idea.

I do not think, one instant, that any fucker who works in those facilities is a good person.

They're all power craving lunatics who want easy ways to abuse power and justify their superiority.

It _attracts_ narcissists.

It _attracts_ people who abuse authority.

Because teenagers are the single most vulnerable population - and they know it.

Hooooly shit no.

It's no better.

Once upon a time I almost did university with the intent of working to help people like that. Good for me I was smart enough to do investigating first. A lot of it.

Chose to major in mathematics instead.

But spent all my time doing psychology anyway.

Psychology has sort of rotted to the core. Lack of control and filtering.

There's no checks and balances against abuses of power and authority.

It's hideous how that occurs in a field where it should be MOST prevalent. MOST cautious.

To be fair, Kragt, you often do have to exercise and force social interaction. inasmuch as you can stand it.

A good psychologist would help you figure out how.

Just being told "do this" doesn't help.

>Seminary

oooooh

I was a jehovah's witness until I turned 14. Got out of that one in a hurry.

Well, yes and no. Researchers absolutely are trying to figure out how to help people. But there's a sort of detachment between academia and the session-culture with the research and intent of the science.

Often the best way to help is introspection. Which, yes Kragt, often means researching it yourself.

To help introspective people that's what you should foster.

That gives you a sense of self efficacy - agency.

Power and control and ability to make your life better.

It's helping people with BAD introspection that you need to really direct thoroughly and carefully.

Tons of clinical tools given to people, like mood charts, are exactly for people with bad introspection.

People who cannot really think about their mental states or remember them reliably.

No. 5. And that's personality assessment. I'm talking about mood.

"16" is the sort of myers-briggs pseudoscience astrology.

There are a lot of useful tools in psychology but also a lot of bad psychologists who don't know how to use them.

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572, can I steb?

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Meditation helped me considerably.

More than anything else before or since.

Well, meditation and buddhism helped. Learn to let go.

Like most things given to you fast and cheap, it's fattening and bad for you.

I just recommend everyone to Ajahn Brahm. Decades of videos of his talks, very simple, somewhat repetitive, but strictly original buddhism.

Theravadan buddhism works, and with none of the highly religious ritualistic gobbledeegook other cultures added on to it.

Learn to let go, and to be mindful.

Simple is what works.

It does have some ritualistic gobbledegook, but any sensible person can see the point isn't the ritual. In fact _the first listed stage of enlightenment is to accept that_.

Yes, over a disagreement. I forget about what.

Basically the council or whatever wouldn't back him over what he thought was essential and important. Being that was the case, he stepped down from it as the only viable solution.

Since he could not, _especially_ not as head monk, do otherwise.

You cannot be a buddhist and go "Well I'll just ignore this then"