Message from parrott in tradworker #tradworker


2018-01-22 14:09:52 UTC  

i appreciate that

2018-01-22 14:09:55 UTC  

Np

2018-01-22 14:18:32 UTC  

part of me wants to do things that make me happy

2018-01-22 14:18:49 UTC  

part of me *wants* to be sad because i don't want to leave the memory of my baby in the past

2018-01-22 14:23:12 UTC  

Embrace it and let the memory steel your resolve. You'll see him again some day Brother.

2018-01-22 14:35:17 UTC  

i want to make him proud

2018-01-22 14:36:36 UTC  

I hesitate to speak on matters beyond my depth, but while remembering and working through grief are important, your child wants you to succeed and thrive more than you do.

2018-01-22 14:37:07 UTC  

^

2018-01-22 14:37:20 UTC  

^

2018-01-22 14:37:33 UTC  

i'll make him proud

2018-01-22 14:37:53 UTC  

i will give him brothers and sisters to come meet him one day

2018-01-22 14:40:17 UTC  

I know it's probably not entirely sane, but I casually converse with my passed relatives as if they're all still with me as I go about my day. It's not even a grief thing for me, so much as rejecting the notion that one's passage means they're completely gone from my life and my inner world.

2018-01-22 14:41:42 UTC  

That's some the dad from Dexter level stuff.

2018-01-22 14:41:49 UTC  

> pushes his glasses up on his nose

Be sure to give your girl at least two cycles before going at it again unless she's in her mid-thirties or older. It takes a while for a woman to rebuild her nutrient levels to ensure the best possible gestation.

2018-01-22 14:42:08 UTC  

she's 24

2018-01-22 14:42:09 UTC  

I dont see anything wrong with that tbh

2018-01-22 14:43:33 UTC  

Keep close to your woman too. This is a difficult and irrational time. People can easily drift apart.

2018-01-22 14:43:34 UTC  

Ah. 24. I refuse to impregnate any concubine over 17, for maximum vitality.

2018-01-22 14:43:48 UTC  

Good call Birdman.

2018-01-22 14:44:45 UTC  

Two months ago, my first child was born. I've been through both a miscarriage and an abortion, neither of which I've truly gotten over. Some things you don't "get over," you just learn to work with.

2018-01-22 14:45:20 UTC  

Long story on the abortion. Wife left me then found out she was pregnant after she left me. I only found out months later.

2018-01-22 14:46:11 UTC  

My wife has PCOS so I assume I will have to deal with that pain. Yeah agreed though I have less life experience I have been through some shit. That's fucked.

2018-01-22 14:46:31 UTC  

Very true, Colton. It's unfortunate when miscarriages happen, though they're a natural and unavoidable part of the greater plan. Ensuring that the trauma doesn't cause distance within the relationship is the first priority.

2018-01-22 14:47:15 UTC  

You could end up blaming your wife or she could blame you in a vulnerable hurt psychological state.

2018-01-22 14:47:38 UTC  

And then you'll resent each other and drift apart. It happens sadly.

2018-01-22 14:47:57 UTC  

Yup.

2018-01-22 14:49:02 UTC  

@☦Colton of Yore☦ My wife has PCOS as well. We've been through a miscarriage. It isn't easy that's for sure.

2018-01-22 14:49:07 UTC  

It isn't like having a decent relationship with a woman is hard enough. God decided to test us further with the reality of our children dying.

2018-01-22 14:49:24 UTC  

I had to wait until I was 35 before getting to finally have a child after all those false starts and setbacks. And when she struggled to breathe right after the delivery and needed support, my heart caved in on itself.

2018-01-22 14:50:21 UTC  

Until science perfects disembodied robotic uteruses, we'll continue to have to deal with women.

2018-01-22 14:51:34 UTC  

@Tarnfurt Memory Eternal for your baby. I know you're hurting and I can't even pretend I know how it feels. Honor their memory with siblings as you said. Live greatly for them.

2018-01-22 14:51:47 UTC  

i will

2018-01-22 14:52:08 UTC  

you folks have no idea how much it means to me seeing my brothers-in-arms share my grief

2018-01-22 14:52:19 UTC  

pics of TWP in the gallery

2018-01-22 14:55:10 UTC  

I really like the optics on this one.

https://cdn.discordapp.com/attachments/274535531927568384/405012523797184512/636521444617522795-Protest-06.png

2018-01-22 14:55:27 UTC  

me too

2018-01-22 14:56:49 UTC  

Antifa patrolling the crowd for signs of racism, patriarchy, and cisheteronormativity.

https://cdn.discordapp.com/attachments/274535531927568384/405012939620352000/636521527850975162-march-77.png

2018-01-22 14:56:50 UTC  

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2018-01-22 14:57:21 UTC  

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2018-01-22 14:57:30 UTC  

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