Message from @Stephanie
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Most people who smoke know it's bad for them and know it's not good culturally. Unless they're major shitlibs who watch AJ+ regularly and think the word marijuana has racial connotations, lmao. I believe that you should keep a record how many times she smokes in a month or two and then you have a proper baseline. See if she can reduce it further and you'll do something for her. Don't make it about how you feel about it culturally. Make it about her health.
@Virgil i think i am doing that at least unconciously a bit. She had a tough home situation growing up- divorced parents, didnt feel loved by her mom, and definitely uses it to cope whether she knows it or not.
Ok yeah I’ll stress her health. But she still says well I can do what I want! Like a little girl
You ever think maybe there's too many red flags you're overlooking?
Maybe you could try introducing her to a new hobby or activity that could help her cope. Like biking, cooking, mma or something to that effect.
Its tough to get her into something new as she is a stubborn irish girl haha. And @TV i did notice some red flags, but I believe the positives greatly outweigh those. And she did have a difficult family situation, so if we were to have a daughter I would not let that happen, and I don’t believe she would either
Marijuana is gay
We have fun, works a ton and very hard, enjoy each others company, takes care of me and vice versa
You need to patrol her
Shes honest truthful and punctual
What do you mean stephanie
Do you wanna marry her and have her be the mother of your kids??
Yeah as long as she doesn’t smoke
Be in charge of her.. if you want her to quit make her quit lol
Have you ever dealt with the stubborn irish?
Maybe tell her you intend to marry her and have her be the mother of your children and you can’t have her smoke if that’s the case
Ok
Yes my bf @Whitelash is a stubborn nibba but I got him to stop smoking by nagging
Nice
Alright then
Ultimately, you are in charge
is she the type of woman to accept that?
Or is she a feminist
if she knows you’re in charge then it’s easy
^
Shes not a feminist haha but she does not like being told what to do. But neither do I
No one likes being told what to do
but still she needs to know her place
True
Girls will argue all the time, but if they value you they'll cooperate
If she’s been smoking habitually then she isn’t gonna stop easily so even if she agrees to stop it’s gonna be a challenge
If you tell her to stop and she’s goes on a feminist rant saying you can’t tell her what to do then you have a big problemo
Maybe it would be good to tell her that you care about her and that’s why you need her to stop
Because you want a future with her
Ok...
Yeah she always argues when i bring it up but she has been slowing down throughout the relationship
Argues how?
Does she downplay it that it’s not a big deal?
Honestly just tell her she’s being a degenerate
be nice about it tho