Message from @Gaius Mucius Scaevola
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Just be careful you don't get friendzoned. Texting too much can do that
yeah i've been avoiding texting her
if she initiates i respond
and if she initiates several times in a row i might text her
but i dont' like texting in general
you prevent being friendzoned by "keeping it man to woman". i would text her when you have something to say
if you do not text her much she may perceive that as disinterest
i would sit next to her at church every week
"you prevent being friendzoned by "keeping it man to woman". i would text her when you have something to say" great way to put it @Zyzz .
It's about making your intentions clear
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if i get to church after her and she is alone i will sit next to her
text her before church and ask her if she'd like to sit next to you
good idea
this is how you make your intentions clear
and then i will talk to her after church, regardless
Definitely ask her to hang out again though man-that seems like its what you want to do
@Gaius Mucius Scaevola you could also ask her if you could take her to coffee after church or walk her home
she lives a half hour drive away from our church
and comes to church with her family
but i think i could ask if she wants to get lunch and give her a ride home
Well said @Zyzz
Good idea. If she makes up some silly excuse, then maybe she is not mature enough for you
how do i differentiate silly excuse from legitimate excuse?
If she pulls something like ohhh uuhh im busy or have schoolwork or have to walk my dog, thats silly. Legit would be like oh I have to go visit my grandmother in the hospital
I think it's important too to see if she will offer another time if she's busy. If she does then she's probably interested in you
Last thing you could do is say ok, when are you free? If she says not until the end of the semester I would call her out jokingly
someone will thoroughly explain a legitimate excuse.
it also the feeling you get from how she responds.. learn to trust intuition
if she gives an excuse i'll just say "alright let me know when you're free for a date" and wait to see if she ever actually lets me know
@Gaius Mucius Scaevola one thing I would throw in there. even though 18-22/23 isn't unheard of, it really is quite a huge difference
according to the half your age+7 rule she's at my lower limit
but she is really gorgeous and trad
its rare for a girl to ever follow up with someone about when they are free for a date.. it is best to ask "so when are you free?"
if she can't do brunch after church one of these weeks soon should i ask her again once the semester is over?
@Gaius Mucius Scaevola I would play it by ear, meet her at Church, ask how things are going
if she's light on details then move on
she hasn't initiated texting in a while
so i guess i'll just play it by ear
tfw no gf until then
Don't worry man you are wicked young. And as you get older, you will meet more mature girls