The dismissals hamper the convo, scrib

You have to have standards.

maybe scrididdlyibblehatch is just modeling the idea of "prerequisites" vs. "preferences"

He hasn't agreed there's a difference between preference and prerequisite

"The sun is purple" The sun is not purple, fuck off.

Fuck off until you can acknowledge the sun is not purple.

I'm saying that from the perspective of a suitor, prerequisites can be bent to preferences.

There are people trying to date with laundry lists of dealbreakers

you are just being dull or obtuse about it

Xorgy, we're right.

That only works when you get your foot in the door

You're wrong.

Which in a prior era would have been feasible

its like height, it might seem superficial, but height is a advantage in almost every combat scenario

@Beemann it's hard online, but just don't do it online.

But online dating is basically a minute examination of everyone you could interact with

Right, that's my personal solution

Online dating is now the lionshare.

But that's pretty much the whole "dating scene" in Vancouver and many other places besides

That's the tragic part.

that's a description though

People aren't really meeting anymore.

just because other people are choosing a bad way to meet people, doesn't mean you have to

The greater problem is that there's no community or trust

There's a reason that this generation has the highest amount of virgins since their grandparents.

When I meet nice girls, it's usually at hobby meetups or professional conferences

The problem is comparative power.

I'm not just talking about sex. Sex just happens to meter what's happening proportionately.

No, that was always a factor, WT

They just have too much power in the market.

Good men who _want_ what they're pursuing have a charm advantage in person, but it really doesn't work out online.

I actually find, oddly, that it works out great for me online, just not on dating sites

Yes.

ahh, yeah, that's the other thing

It's not hard to meet someone you really like.

Meeting them within 50 miles.

That's the crunch.

Well, right now I have an advantage there

😐

Cool beans.

since it's up in the air as to where I will be living