She has friends which speaks good about her is what I'm saying. Dont be a spurg. It's how you handle this that'll define the situation

@mcguyver123 yep

Saw her taking the trash out the floor

Eco princess

Still

Got a lil bit frustrated

Kings recently some close friends of mine have been going behind my back and I’m trying my hardest not to lay hands on them

What's crackin?

Sorry to hear that bud, what's the scoop?

Basically I had a break up and my oldest friends started DMing her, which is not so bad but they’re trying to make her more of a fixture in our little circle of friends then she ever was when we were dating, and they’d all lied and said they hadn’t been talking to her, and now my friend told me to just get used to it and told me about all the lying

Id say that's a pretty shady circle tbh

Well not to shit on your friends but fuck those guys. I can relate though and that is irritating.

Are you innasmalltown King?

No, not too small, but the bulk of us have known each other since Middle school so it’s basically half my social group

I feel that

That sucks. . . it sounds like she's pretty integrated too...

Unfortunately I found it easier in my personal situation just to branch out and distance myself from my old friends that were doin similar shit

If they're lyin to you and can't be basically respectful to someone they've known for such a long time then it would appear to me they haven't grown as much as you did. You deserve good friends - and that doesn't sound like a high bar.

Thanks king, I’m thinking of reaching out at the vet center at college and developing my friends there and just leaving them behind

It sucks and doesn't feel good to do it but from my perspective it passes and gets better. Personally it helped me to move to a different state as well which I was looking to do for a while.

Yeah, once I’m done with college I’m outie, I been living in Cali too long, especially now that I’ve seen the light about how kickass it is to live elsewhere

I've only ever heard bad things about cali tbh

They’re probably not wrong, weather is nice, but not nice enough to deal with the other baggage

I moved to Missouri (Kansas City right on the border with Kansas) and it was my best decision yet.

I was from New Yorkistan.

It's pretty fucked there too

Yeah get the fuck outta Cali - consider Schad's comments on resetting your network

I've found the same helps

( was atta bar - mind me )

I've had to cut ties with close friends because they became toxic. Longest friendship I cut was about 8 years or so. Just because they were there in the past dosent change what they're doing now. It the whole what have you done for me lately thing. I still want them to be well, but just not near me

Ok, it seems I’ll just try and distance myself, got but 3 years left here till I can use my degree to GTFO

@thedarkness05 To expand on what you've said: good friendship shouldn't be at your expense - in terms of mental/emotional health. It's kinda like hiring a guy to change your car tires and he just shits in your seat and hands you the keys.

Just light his business on fir-

I mean

Find a new guy

ha haha

Pretty much yeah. Like I was putting all the effort in the friendship. So I told the 6 or 7 of em, we're still friends, but y'all gotta set things up, I'm done doing everything. Its been a year or so since we've even talked

im a commie pussy magnet

Why the fuck cant I find a decent woman?

The commies are leftovers that nobody wants, hence the increased availability.

Im not so sure they exist tbh