Message from @CronoSaturn

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2019-01-12 20:20:30 UTC  

as that responsibility is being questioned many feminists are arguing for the assumptions carried in the way divorce is carried out

2019-01-12 20:20:54 UTC  

you cant seriously believe feminists are interested in improving things for fathers

2019-01-12 20:21:03 UTC  

and feminism isnt a monolith and i think their concerns in the regards of womens place being in the home as a neccessity was valid

2019-01-12 20:21:19 UTC  

that's a non sequitor

2019-01-12 20:21:53 UTC  

saying feminists did something "good" is just a diversion from the fact that they are responsible for this situation

2019-01-12 20:22:04 UTC  

Feminists might do it for egoistic ideological reasons, but to expect them to put any effort into this I think is misplaced hope..

2019-01-12 20:22:10 UTC  

hardly. there is no one "feminism" just as there isnt one "christianity" so pinning it all on "feminism" is too vague to be accurate.

2019-01-12 20:22:26 UTC  

I reject the notion that history is a path of constant progress in which people have more and more rights over time

2019-01-12 20:22:37 UTC  

fathers have less rights as do husbands than ever before

2019-01-12 20:23:12 UTC  

eh, the vikings had pretty shitty divorce standards for men

2019-01-12 20:23:17 UTC  

Not to mention children no longer enjoy the benefit of having a united father and mother

2019-01-12 20:23:35 UTC  

if there's nothing common between all Christians and Feminists, the terms become useless. Obviously that is not true.. so criticising feminism as a monolith is very much legitimate.

2019-01-12 20:23:40 UTC  

and single motherhood absolutely affects children you can see this statistically

2019-01-12 20:23:55 UTC  

this is a false dichotomy snake, happy families dont get divorced

2019-01-12 20:24:09 UTC  

so 50% of families aren't happy

2019-01-12 20:24:13 UTC  

and domestic violence also affects kids, more so than single parents

2019-01-12 20:24:14 UTC  

why is that a good thing?

2019-01-12 20:24:22 UTC  

it isnt, but it is a reality

2019-01-12 20:24:53 UTC  

Here's a thought: assault is a crime and if a man assaults a woman, he will be arrested

2019-01-12 20:25:40 UTC  

We are in this situation because women can divorce their husbands for any reason. They don't have to show that the husband assaulted them

2019-01-12 20:26:25 UTC  

right but if you are in an unhappy relationship and you are forced to stay there often the result is assault

2019-01-12 20:26:25 UTC  

@Gerçek That is a connection made purely made in your own head and is the product of some kind of wishful thinking. Denonucing an entire culture because they are "heathens" when your whole world-view is based on concepts tought out by individuals in this culture is just plain stupid. All the other shit you say about me claiming the homo side of Greek culture and concepst in Christianity is pure fabrication and a product of your imagination.

Foresight isn't something that is always right, nor does norms, laws and morality needs this. You'll have to produce some sort of proof for this. Also your analogy is so off, you can' compare something as complex as human society with that example (which also can be attributet to induction. A high fall = high movment speed = harder impact)

2019-01-12 20:26:40 UTC  

Often? Do you have statistics to back up that claim?

2019-01-12 20:27:21 UTC  

So what? Because marriage is hard and couples aren't always happy I guess kids don't get to have fathers anymore?

2019-01-12 20:27:24 UTC  

i dont on hand but i should think thats intuitive. if your stuck living with a person you hate there will likely be a punch on

2019-01-12 20:27:58 UTC  

this thinking that 100% of Divorces that ever happen are for legitimate reasons since the couple weren't *happy* at any given time assumes that things got better for them after they got Better.
Thats not even thinking of the children yet for whom divorce is almost never better... must divorces don't end up in Domestic Violence convictions even though the standards of evidence for these is below criminal threshold. @CronoSaturn

2019-01-12 20:27:58 UTC  

and kids get to have fathers who dont hit them

2019-01-12 20:28:14 UTC  

You make it sound like we have 2 options: either women are assaulted or kids don't have fathers

2019-01-12 20:28:50 UTC  

Exactly, the mother's sexual partners after a divorce are more likely to assault her and or her kids

2019-01-12 20:29:26 UTC  

Again, this isn't solved by no fault divorce, it's solved by making assault illegal...which it already is

2019-01-12 20:29:58 UTC  

@Gerçek im not predicating that assault precipitates all divorces but i dont think its unreasonable to think that if either party is forced to stay in a steadily deteriorating relationship, which you are clearly in if you are seeking a divorce, *someone* is very likely to become abusive

2019-01-12 20:30:31 UTC  

although i should clarify that girls are equally capable of filling that role

2019-01-12 20:31:12 UTC  

no they aren't. Theyre WAY more likely to

2019-01-12 20:31:22 UTC  

It's not even close

2019-01-12 20:31:39 UTC  

@Krille P. If you cannot predict an outcome with any level of certainty then why would you have any norm.
I'm not saying norms in all societies are always right, but they generally are better at putting out better outcomes in regards to Societal Sustainability than a society where everyone's bound to their whims without any direction.

2019-01-12 20:31:41 UTC  

More likely to assault their sexual partners and children

2019-01-12 20:32:50 UTC  

sure, in either case the relationship shouldnt be kept together just because of the kids because while i agree that the evidence shows that single parents are statistically less capable in providing the same outcomes for their kids, its far ahead of kids being raised in families where the environment is actively abusive

2019-01-12 20:33:31 UTC  

by allowing that relationship to end your cutting your losses

2019-01-12 20:34:24 UTC  

again, assault is already illegal and these people are arrested

2019-01-12 20:34:35 UTC  

none of this merits no fault divorce

2019-01-12 20:35:03 UTC  

this is a bait and switch, because some women are assaulted all women should be able to divorce and then suck funds from their ex husbands