Message from @slvr_neo

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2020-01-31 02:43:48 UTC  

Exactly, she's never had to rely on herself to survive.

2020-01-31 02:44:07 UTC  

Have you tried calling her the N word?

2020-01-31 02:44:34 UTC  

Hahaha

2020-01-31 02:45:21 UTC  

I can only be serious for so long lol short bursts of mental clarity then back to insanity lol

2020-01-31 02:45:33 UTC  

@slvr_neo its needed lol

2020-01-31 02:46:12 UTC  

If you're filling every need of hers all the time you're not doing you all the time

2020-01-31 02:46:35 UTC  

And she doesn't learn to fulfill her own needs

2020-01-31 02:47:52 UTC  

Correct

2020-01-31 02:48:05 UTC  

It is not your job to fill all her needs either

2020-01-31 02:48:09 UTC  

@Bodark Actual @slvr_neo

Makes me wonder if I am filling those tho. I dont feel neglectful by any means

2020-01-31 02:48:17 UTC  

@Bodark Actual oh I know

2020-01-31 02:48:26 UTC  

There's a girl out there how will drain your dick with her throat 4x a week minimum and still do her on the regular

2020-01-31 02:48:51 UTC  

And I'm that girl bro..

2020-01-31 02:48:55 UTC  

Hahahaha

2020-01-31 02:48:57 UTC  

>the truth hurts me

2020-01-31 02:49:00 UTC  

Lol

2020-01-31 02:49:12 UTC  

Bahahaha fuck, I had to

2020-01-31 02:51:16 UTC  

What will help both of you in the long term is if she learns how to be her own person

2020-01-31 02:51:25 UTC  

You will have to let her struggle with this

2020-01-31 02:51:51 UTC  

She needs to struggle

2020-01-31 02:54:52 UTC  

Even if it ends y'alls relationship...

Dont be obliged to continue due to time invested.. I've done some of my best personal growth following break ups. If the time comes when you realize she's not going to change, dont be afraid to walk away..

2020-01-31 02:55:49 UTC  

On the same front if honoring that oath means something deeply significant to you then forget ahead

2020-01-31 02:56:00 UTC  

Only you can know what the call is

2020-01-31 02:56:14 UTC  

*forge ahead

2020-01-31 02:56:26 UTC  

Agreed

2020-01-31 02:57:03 UTC  

Separating for a time may not be a bad idea if you feel it is worth it

2020-01-31 02:57:12 UTC  

Or if you can't stand being around her

2020-01-31 02:57:28 UTC  

A good compromise between the two extremes

2020-01-31 02:58:17 UTC  

Just don't make any promises about your return, even if you intend to, if you give her that security statement the separation will mean nothing. She must view you as the prize and dread your leaving her as a possibility.

2020-01-31 02:58:48 UTC  

She must find deep within herself a fear of who she has become and what it will do so motivating that she compels herself to change

2020-01-31 02:59:32 UTC  

And even if she says she will change you cannot return to be her oak again until she has actually completed the change on a significant level

2020-01-31 02:59:55 UTC  

She will say anything to retain you as a blanket of comfort and stability even if it means she hates herself for it

2020-01-31 03:00:46 UTC  

Bodark going in on the psychological warfare. Big impressed

2020-01-31 03:01:23 UTC  

And when she asks what you'll be doing with your dick when separated don't tell her, even if you intend on remaining fidelous that dread must exist

2020-01-31 03:02:02 UTC  

But if you choose not to remain faithful (which, as my faith would dictate I don't advise, you took an oath before God) then be man enough to handle those consequences

2020-01-31 03:02:49 UTC  

Anonymously send a letter containing the N word to her new address every once in a while to break her spirit. She needs obstacles to overcome.

2020-01-31 03:02:55 UTC  

Hahahaha

2020-01-31 03:03:14 UTC  

If my wife wasn't showing signs of improvement I'd be separated as fuck.

2020-01-31 03:03:54 UTC  

So I'm not hypothesizing anything here that I haven't gone over for myself or wouldn't be willing to do.

But only you can decide if that's the right course.

2020-01-31 03:04:43 UTC  

This is all much easier done before you have kids so keep that in mind

2020-01-31 03:05:38 UTC  

And I will go over to her house and try to seduce her. If she falters on her faithfulness to you, I will deny her and hit her with the N word. No matter the course of action you take, one way or another, she's getting hit with the N word...it's the only way