@slvr_neo only bf she ever had.

I've had several ex gfs.

And before you she was with gaurdians?

@slvr_neo yup

Then she's been in a constant state of dependence her entire life. Independence is a skill she never has had to learn

@slvr_neo hmm.... yeah. Fair

Emotional independence is very important

And you've been the bread winner?

Fuck yeah

Her Bill's are phone, and .....medical debt.....and..... credit card🤔

Exactly, she's never had to rely on herself to survive.

Have you tried calling her the N word?

Hahaha

I can only be serious for so long lol short bursts of mental clarity then back to insanity lol

@slvr_neo its needed lol

If you're filling every need of hers all the time you're not doing you all the time

And she doesn't learn to fulfill her own needs

Correct

It is not your job to fill all her needs either

@Bodark Actual @slvr_neo

Makes me wonder if I am filling those tho. I dont feel neglectful by any means

@Bodark Actual oh I know

There's a girl out there how will drain your dick with her throat 4x a week minimum and still do her on the regular

And I'm that girl bro..

Hahahaha

>the truth hurts me

Lol

Bahahaha fuck, I had to

What will help both of you in the long term is if she learns how to be her own person

You will have to let her struggle with this

She needs to struggle

Even if it ends y'alls relationship...

Dont be obliged to continue due to time invested.. I've done some of my best personal growth following break ups. If the time comes when you realize she's not going to change, dont be afraid to walk away..

On the same front if honoring that oath means something deeply significant to you then forget ahead

Only you can know what the call is

*forge ahead

Agreed

Separating for a time may not be a bad idea if you feel it is worth it

Or if you can't stand being around her

A good compromise between the two extremes

Just don't make any promises about your return, even if you intend to, if you give her that security statement the separation will mean nothing. She must view you as the prize and dread your leaving her as a possibility.

She must find deep within herself a fear of who she has become and what it will do so motivating that she compels herself to change

And even if she says she will change you cannot return to be her oak again until she has actually completed the change on a significant level

She will say anything to retain you as a blanket of comfort and stability even if it means she hates herself for it