i appreciate having you here to talk and lament with

My prayers have been sent your way brother

i appreciate that

Np

part of me wants to do things that make me happy

part of me *wants* to be sad because i don't want to leave the memory of my baby in the past

Embrace it and let the memory steel your resolve. You'll see him again some day Brother.

i want to make him proud

I hesitate to speak on matters beyond my depth, but while remembering and working through grief are important, your child wants you to succeed and thrive more than you do.

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i'll make him proud

i will give him brothers and sisters to come meet him one day

I know it's probably not entirely sane, but I casually converse with my passed relatives as if they're all still with me as I go about my day. It's not even a grief thing for me, so much as rejecting the notion that one's passage means they're completely gone from my life and my inner world.

That's some the dad from Dexter level stuff.

> pushes his glasses up on his nose

Be sure to give your girl at least two cycles before going at it again unless she's in her mid-thirties or older. It takes a while for a woman to rebuild her nutrient levels to ensure the best possible gestation.

she's 24

I dont see anything wrong with that tbh

Keep close to your woman too. This is a difficult and irrational time. People can easily drift apart.

Ah. 24. I refuse to impregnate any concubine over 17, for maximum vitality.

Good call Birdman.

Two months ago, my first child was born. I've been through both a miscarriage and an abortion, neither of which I've truly gotten over. Some things you don't "get over," you just learn to work with.

Long story on the abortion. Wife left me then found out she was pregnant after she left me. I only found out months later.

My wife has PCOS so I assume I will have to deal with that pain. Yeah agreed though I have less life experience I have been through some shit. That's fucked.

Very true, Colton. It's unfortunate when miscarriages happen, though they're a natural and unavoidable part of the greater plan. Ensuring that the trauma doesn't cause distance within the relationship is the first priority.

You could end up blaming your wife or she could blame you in a vulnerable hurt psychological state.

And then you'll resent each other and drift apart. It happens sadly.

Yup.

@☦Colton of Yore☦ My wife has PCOS as well. We've been through a miscarriage. It isn't easy that's for sure.

It isn't like having a decent relationship with a woman is hard enough. God decided to test us further with the reality of our children dying.

I had to wait until I was 35 before getting to finally have a child after all those false starts and setbacks. And when she struggled to breathe right after the delivery and needed support, my heart caved in on itself.

Until science perfects disembodied robotic uteruses, we'll continue to have to deal with women.

@Tarnfurt Memory Eternal for your baby. I know you're hurting and I can't even pretend I know how it feels. Honor their memory with siblings as you said. Live greatly for them.

i will

https://www.knoxnews.com/picture-gallery/news/2018/01/21/womens-march-and-march-for-life-crowd-downtown-knoxville/109682416/

you folks have no idea how much it means to me seeing my brothers-in-arms share my grief

pics of TWP in the gallery

I really like the optics on this one.

me too

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