It really wasn't an issue until today

2 years is literally bullshit

I feel like i should, but she's so fucking perfectly

Doesnt matter and that's the problem too. That's why you still have feels, you're maintaining an emotional affair with the french girl. Stay faithful or break it off, but I'm telling you, if you know your current girl is a good one and cool boog. Keep her and work on this mental and emotional fitness your boys are asking you to commit to.

Fuck that

No one is perfect

Bro

No one bro. That's the idea that's a lie you're telling yourself

She listens to black metal

Idk which one is the lie th9

Doesnt matter. I have different music taste with my chick

Tjats probably my whole problem

Idk which one i actually liv3

The one that's across the water is. The one that isnt in direct contact with you

You may like both, but that's playing yourself and your girl now. Cut contact, its obviously not good for you

Because i can concert my gf. I'll take a bit, but im sure it's possible. But the french girl id almost literally the female version of me

The pain is temporary, but doing this vs and pursuing a very modicum of maybe with frenchy will be a more painful future especially if you're alone and you cant find another based chick. Good women are hard to find.

Emotional affairs are shit. Sometimes you think you want someone more and that your current isn’t enough, but that’s a temptation you overcome when building a lasting relationship with someone you love. Love isn’t easy.

It's not easy. But complement yourself with the one chick now. Be faithful or you will regret that disservice to your honor.

Drifting from woman to woman ain't Chad or cool. Settling down with a good woman is. Be faithful, start a family and all that wholesomeness.

What merc said. Maintain and cut contact with the french chick.

After I started to get strong feelings for the woman who is now my wife, the girl I liked forever, who was hot, perfect, but never single when I was single finally got back up with me and was ready to stop being with crappy guys and finally get with me. It too a lot of willpower to make the right decision, tell her no, and cut coms. She was to me like your French girl was to you. I still sometimes think about the what if’s, but deep down I know I would’ve lost a much better woman.

Man, the french girl has been number 1 sinve I started talking to her

So stop talking to her

Like, i normally don't complain about dumb shit, but i love them both soooo fucking much

Yeah that’s what Melissa was like for me. I talked with her off and on through several relationships. The stars never aligned for us to be with each other at the right time, but it’s a good thing they didn’t.

why is this discord filled with irl doomers who think their shits so fucked when the answer is quite obvious

You’ll never be happy unless you learn to grow up and say no to things like this

@xringarcher1440 because of how society and the media have pushed garbage

Lack of strong male role models

Lack of wholesome values

The answer seems obvious, but its not to me

Lack of discipline

Take your pick

The whole reason i have a problem

we all go through doomer status eventually, but once you realize you are being a retard life is so much simpler once you stop being a retard

With my wife now, I have gained a financial wizard, someone who is not like me and can help me see my faults and weaknesses to improve on, someone who has skills and knowledge and ways of thinking that I don’t, etc.

And I am her strength, willpower and her confidence.

@xringarcher1440 because people naturally go to strong men for advice

It is better to have someone who is not like you. Some similar interests, hobbies and stuff are great. We both like weeb shit. She likes Batman shit. We both play pokemon and we both love the mountains and fishing/hunting/farm stuff. But she is very different from me. I tried being with people who were like me, but I was never really happy. I was constantly chasing happiness. When I made the decision to forsake all others and join with my wife, I found fulfillment and joy. I’m not chasing emotional happiness anymore because my wife is a solid rock upon which I can trust my heart to stand on.

Honestly, I was depressed for a short period after I told Melissa that I was falling in love with Kat. I cut coms with Melissa and it felt like I had just lost a golden ticket to the chocolate factory I’d been longing to see for years (das metaphor). Afterwards though... I got over Melissa. I can look back and see that I wouldn’t have been as happy as I am now.

Similar situation karolina.