Emotional affairs are shit. Sometimes you think you want someone more and that your current isn’t enough, but that’s a temptation you overcome when building a lasting relationship with someone you love. Love isn’t easy.

It's not easy. But complement yourself with the one chick now. Be faithful or you will regret that disservice to your honor.

Drifting from woman to woman ain't Chad or cool. Settling down with a good woman is. Be faithful, start a family and all that wholesomeness.

What merc said. Maintain and cut contact with the french chick.

After I started to get strong feelings for the woman who is now my wife, the girl I liked forever, who was hot, perfect, but never single when I was single finally got back up with me and was ready to stop being with crappy guys and finally get with me. It too a lot of willpower to make the right decision, tell her no, and cut coms. She was to me like your French girl was to you. I still sometimes think about the what if’s, but deep down I know I would’ve lost a much better woman.

Man, the french girl has been number 1 sinve I started talking to her

So stop talking to her

Like, i normally don't complain about dumb shit, but i love them both soooo fucking much

Yeah that’s what Melissa was like for me. I talked with her off and on through several relationships. The stars never aligned for us to be with each other at the right time, but it’s a good thing they didn’t.

why is this discord filled with irl doomers who think their shits so fucked when the answer is quite obvious

You’ll never be happy unless you learn to grow up and say no to things like this

@xringarcher1440 because of how society and the media have pushed garbage

Lack of strong male role models

Lack of wholesome values

The answer seems obvious, but its not to me

Lack of discipline

Take your pick

The whole reason i have a problem

we all go through doomer status eventually, but once you realize you are being a retard life is so much simpler once you stop being a retard

With my wife now, I have gained a financial wizard, someone who is not like me and can help me see my faults and weaknesses to improve on, someone who has skills and knowledge and ways of thinking that I don’t, etc.

And I am her strength, willpower and her confidence.

@xringarcher1440 because people naturally go to strong men for advice

It is better to have someone who is not like you. Some similar interests, hobbies and stuff are great. We both like weeb shit. She likes Batman shit. We both play pokemon and we both love the mountains and fishing/hunting/farm stuff. But she is very different from me. I tried being with people who were like me, but I was never really happy. I was constantly chasing happiness. When I made the decision to forsake all others and join with my wife, I found fulfillment and joy. I’m not chasing emotional happiness anymore because my wife is a solid rock upon which I can trust my heart to stand on.

Honestly, I was depressed for a short period after I told Melissa that I was falling in love with Kat. I cut coms with Melissa and it felt like I had just lost a golden ticket to the chocolate factory I’d been longing to see for years (das metaphor). Afterwards though... I got over Melissa. I can look back and see that I wouldn’t have been as happy as I am now.

Similar situation karolina.

in 2012 when my gf at the time was cheating on me while we went to different colleges I downed a bunch of pills and nyquil in a suicide attempt. I woke up on my bathroom floor covered in pill filled puke. For years after, i thought I'd never get over her. She was the girl I had plans to marry and even had an engagement ring in my possession to give her before I found out. I am so fucking glad I woke up, because even though I was miserable for years to come, now I am much better off and am happy again. Shit takes time, and attempting to end it while shit is bad is a fucking TERRIBLE idea. If you do, that's the end of it. You'll never even have the chance to get better

@xringarcher1440 good thing you didnt get picked up by the hospital system. Involuntary admit to a psych facility means no more gun rights.

It's shitty and good that a bunch of us have those kind of stories

I'm telling you. Good men naturally attract those needing help. That doesnt make them not good men, it just means theres merit to those here. Lots of experience here.

The truth is this: No lasting relationship is easy and temptation will always come. It’s pretty much inevitable.
You have to make good decisions and they can be painful. That’s a big part of maturing.
Another principle of maturity is doing what is right by others. Screwing over your s/o is wrong, especially if it’s because of some other woman.

@mcguyver123 yes, that experience was something I keep secret to this day. I never did get professional help, I just dealt with it myself and even though that takes longer, it is indeed possible if you have the willpower

@North /K/arolina this. I've turned down a threesome before. That was self control.

More or less the only reason i haven't gone for help.

I was gunna post some funny Christmas moment in here but y’all going at a serious convey so I’ll wait

@xringarcher1440 stay strong man. Dont screw yourself into being a target to be infringed upon.

@mcguyver123 I did too back in high school. I’m still kicking myself for it 😂

They're over rated

Oh trust me, I am 100% completely fine these days. my super depressed days are way behind me

Two thicc booty volleyball team girls

Still though

I had the girl Im dating now come to my family's christmas party earlier today, shes definitely a trooper lmao