I’ve been asking for this for almost a year!

Glad to have it

Guess I’ll start it off. I have three kids a daughter that’s 11 and two sons whom are 9 and 3. There is nothing like being a dad. There is nothing harder than being a dad and trying to keep your kids away from the pozz while allowing them to have a normal life.

My first kid is due in October, can I be honorary parent?

You belong in here forsure. One of our ky members has a son due in oct

Exciting. If I’m not mistaken there’s a few more IE buns in the oven as well

What do you guys think of spanking as discipline? (I'm not a father yet, just curious)

Oof, I’m very conflicted on that one. On one hand I remember getting spanked as a kid and there are few times I remember being that scared and upset as a youngin. I also never want to be that mad at my kid that I’d hit them.

So I hope having a stern presence and using a booming tone will be sufficient when it comes to that.

hmm

Yeah, I remember being on the receiving end a few times. Ideally I'd never have to use it? but I think it might have a time and place

but incredibly rare

I wouldn't say never though

Cause it does teach a lesson

Exactly, like that punishment stuck with me. But id want to save it as a last resort

I think alot of compliance can be achieved with how the mother acts

if she's playing along with the "You better listen to your father" thing

Discipline ought to be a team effort, one parent only isn't enough of shaming and directioning

Agreed. My mom and dad had times where they didn’t work together and that’s something I want to stress with my wife when the time comes

Discipline should never involve anger.

Anger by its nature is undisciplined.

Spanking has its place. I use it more as a tool when the kids are younger. And if you use that tool and others right as they get older spanking isn’t necessary

I use things like push ups all the way to writing essays. Many different circumstances call for different things.

I was never spanked, I was born in the 80s to very conservative parents; however mom was a nurse in the maternity ward at a hospital and was convinced that spanking was bad for child development.
Molyneux calls it “the bomb in the brain” because studies show spanking has irreversible effects on brain development, lowering IQ, increasing violence, and more.
https://youtu.be/sf7uq9NUOnY

I'd be interested to see the frequency in which it was used in those studies

because if it was alot, it's nearing the territory if similar effects with literal abuse