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oh yeah it is a commie myth that homeschooling makes kids socially awkward
@Freiheit - CA I hope so too
It is not easy, and yes it tries my patience at times, but I wouldn't trade it for anything else atm
It is pretty amazing to teach and learn with your kids. It is mind blowing how much potential is in a homeschool education vs. public school, which as we know- teaches to the lowest common denominator
in many areas homeschool kids *can* take some classes at their local public school as well, if one shoudl choose to do that for their child
Yeah, I don't want to put my kids through the hand holding for the dumb kid.
normie FB has tons of resources and homeschool groups for networking
yes, I mean, when I look back at my elementary education of ancient Egypt, for instance- it's just mummies and King Tut and some pyramids... LOL ... SO much important and fascinating history and science, etc, just gets skimmed over . It is disappointing. Homeschooling is such an adventure and you have the freedom to make education fun, meaningful, and thorough...
I'm definitely having my kids Read/watch The Lord of the Rings Trilogy
HAHAHA
i regret not reading the books with our oldest before letting him see a couple of the movies... š¦
You can't really argue with how nationalist it is
very implicit
It's Peak Identity Politics
When I think about it, watching those movies when I was younger may have shaped my views
Movies are alright, I prefer to imagine how they talk and interact.
In most cases I'd agree. but seeing as how I lost my copy of the fellowship on a plane when I was 10 or so, reading never worked out lmao
and the movies are masterfully made, so I'm ok with them
What's the earliest age you can start lettting your son watch UFC? š
day 1
Watch it from day one and start training when he can walk save weights until he is at least 13 though.
I no longer recommend Jien Liedloff's book, "Continuum Concept" @@missliterallywho I read it about 10 years ago. I think its bs tbh. I totally agree with living by the rhythms of nature but that book is very questionable imo
Birth control pills are definitely awful. Using natural fertility awareness is ideal. It has always worked for us. Intentionally conceived 3x with no accidents and our children are spaced by 3.5 years+
So plenty of time for extended breastfeeding and allowing me time to recover and revitalize before conceiving again. I love that you're on this track!
What I dislike about Continuum Concept is that i feel like it is in some ways anti-White, and also her observations of childbearing within the primitive South American tribes are put on a pedestal, disregarding European tradition, and I feel like for us we need to find a balance when seeking nature/rhythmic lifestyles, bc we generally lack resources for our own historical info- many aspiring Whites tend to internalize what literature and research that does exist- being that of "indigenous" tribes of the globe. While some of it can be of use, I find that deep down, much of it doesn't resonate as it once did, simply bc it it doesn't represent our folk ways.
If you do decide to read the book I will look forward to seeing what you think of it š
Tbh it's been a long time since I read that book, but I think some of her accounts are extreme and unrealistic. Such as relaxing and trusting your crawling baby near a cliff edge. Lol. There is some questionable stuff in there about interacting with babies and if I remember correctly-sexuality stuff that was a major red flag. Regarding the continuum concept, i do think there is a balance to be struck. Hovering parents can be detrimental. We have always tried to allow as much physical freedom as safely possible with our developing children such as tree climbing, exploring water, etc. and it has benefited them in their agility and confidence and mental faculties. But I don't think her book contributed to our patenting style whatsoever, it was more of just observing our children, intuiting and bri g present to immediately step in and help and guide and teach when needed. It is bizarre sometimes to see some parents at the park, for instance. It's like, here they are at the playground and they are instructing the child's every last move. Let's do the slide now, let's swing now, climb on that, do this, no that's too big for you, that's scary, etc. The child is not getting to experience anything for themselves.
i agree! well said!
i look forward to your fresh take on the book after you read it.
since its been awhile for me š
Hi all. Didnāt realize this thread existed until today. Just had number #2 4 weeks ago and #1., 2yo this November, has been really missing 1 on 1 time with mom and now wakes whenever mom feeds and freaks out. We do sleep. Anyone else cosleep? Similar experience? Help? Iām so tired.
Hey @Prestor John , Iāve got a 2 year old and a 4 month old myself. I canāt speak for everyone but Iāve never been a fan of co-sleeping. Of course youāve āgotta do what you gotta doā but Iāve seen it backfire. Iām friends with two couple that both have 3+ year old children sleeping in their bed at night.
My 2 year old didnāt seem too phased when we brought his baby sister home...at first. But now that sheās more active during the day, heās started with the jealousy. Every family dynamic is different, and every kid is different, but one thing that worked well for us was to make sure our son was getting plenty of physical activity, he is much more likely to fight naps, or just generally act out when he hasnāt had much exercise.
As far as bedtime/sleeping goes...my wife and I just had a discussion about it to make sure we were on the same page, bedtime is pretty much non-negotiable here. When we moved our son from in a pack n play in our bedroom to a crib in his own room, naturally we had to deal with the āgrowing pains.ā But we set up a sort of timer system. The first night, we let him cry for 2 minutes before one of us would go in. We would not pick him up, but rather just lay him back down and comfort him briefly before walking out. The next night we started at 3 minutes, next night 4...etc. I think it only took 3-4 days before he was falling asleep on his own with no drama. Recently we started dealing with a bit of a sleep regression, where he started fighting his naps, getting out of his toddler bed and coming out at night. Basically I think heās realized that life goes on outside of his room while heās napping, and he doesnāt want to āmiss outā He can reach doorknobs now and come and go as he pleases, so it actually got to the point where we had to lock his door at nap-time, or else he would come out of his room, or start slamming his door and waking the baby. Once we locked it, the first couple of days he would lay on his floor kicking the door and having a tantrum, if he didnāt calm down after a few mins, Iād go in and just put him back in bed without saying anything, and walk out. He fell asleep on the floor in front of his door a few times but eventually he gave up and started staying in bed.
Iām sure there are a million different methods and expert opinions for parenting little kids, some better than others no doubt. Iām sorry this got way longer than I meant it too.
Tl;dr whatever you do, be consistent. Kids, especially toddlers thrive on consistency and boundaries. Theyāre getting to that age where theyāre starting to test you, and assert some independence. They may not quite grasp āwhyā the need to
They* need to nap, sleep, etc. But they do understand cause/effect. If you stay consistent, theyāll pick up on that.
Iām no expert by any means, my wife and I are figuring this out as we go along too. Itās by far the most challenging experience of my life. Feel free to message me anytime, itās great to be able to bounce ideas off of people here, Iām sure there are way more experienced parents here with tons of valuable knowledge
We are pro co-sleeping @Prestor John its quite trad. great for breastfeeding and bonding. at around 2 yo or so the transition to toddler bed is definitely difficult, but better imo thanl etting an infant "cry it out". i agree with Px4 about plenty of physical activity to help with kids' behavior. Also strictly limiting sugar can have huge effects. a little one on one goes a long way. perhaps just mom snuggling and reading books to your toddler while she nurses the nb could be helpful. implementing one small daily thing with the older child that is special just for them can be good too, such as giving them a constructive way to "help" cook dinner