I spank my kids while they’re young just use it as a sort of thing that lets them know they’re in trouble not to punish them with pain. When they get older I use work (academic and physical), taking away some of there toys or other pleasures as well as push ups and running as punishment.

@JesseJames that's what my dad did with me. spanking until I was 8, then just various types of grounding and what-not

One unique thing I remember was one time I was bugging him while he needed to make phone calls or something, so he taught me how to do long division and made me do a bunch of long division problems for a few hours.

Same. I think it worked great on me so I continue with it. One difference is I can keep my cool with my kids much better than my father could.

Yeah don’t spank angry

^ wish you’d told my pop that 30 years ago. Lol

Lol, one of those hard learned lessons

We’ve all been there.

@Prestor John Very nice! Glad to hear it! I totally agree. I have also seen some weirdo, typical liberal, parents take these ideas way too far. Definitely have to strike a balance. I think extended breastfeeding is great and the American Academy of Pediatrics now backs it up, which is great. But IMO weaning should be complete before the third birthday.

@Px4 Spanking has happened occasionally, usually if it was a quick dangerous situation. Such as the time my son was being rotten and attempting to run away from me in a parking lot. he was 2 and he ran away from me as I was helping him into the car. That was a sharp, quick, mama bear nip, as I think of it. Times like that make sense... As for a spank as a punishment, it can work for some children who respond to just the first spank, never needing to receive another one. I was that type of child. I was only spanked once or twice, and was quite well behaved. But a lot of children just don't respond to spanking and it can turn sour when your last attempt at solving the issue is spanking, and spanking no longer works.

If you spanking every day there is an issue that spanking won’t solve.

My sister and I were never spanked, it is definitely possible to raise healthy children without spanking.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf7uq9NUOnY

Off the wall idea: IE Au-pair-Mädchen program. We are considering hiring an au pair as we do not have a ton of family support and have 2 under 2. Is this crazy or a building block for building a close knit society?

@Prestor John That's a great idea

We would need a coordinator who vetted the family and the applicants. But other than that it’s pretty straight forward. @missliterallywho would you be willing to ask around the woman’s server to see if there is interest?

@Prestor John I have been thinking this very same thing!

@Volkmom what do you say? Also, good morning :)🌞

sure!

been busy with homeschool, sorryguys

My wife is 37 weeks pregnant as of this Thursday. What are some tips y’all can give me for being prepared for this final stage. I already have car seats, diapers, all that kind of obvious stuff.

Grats @Grossly Incandescent!

Home stretch

Can’t wait!

Lel

Thanks for the advice @missliterallywho and congratulations!

But have you run a marathon?

Can anyone recommend a homeschool curriculum that would pass New York states stringent (anti) homeschool requirements?

@Jonaltright I want to use this one with my kids http://greatbooksacademy.org/

There's also an augmented one, Angelicus Academy, that comes with theology as well

Awesome this looks good!

Haha

There are plenty of fat people who have elected surgery over running a marathon.

Would this be the proper channel for discussing how to deal with parents?
Not in a teenage angst sort of way, the much more serious "I'm 30+ and my 60+ boomer mom is actually suffering severe, near-complete short term memory loss."

@Wood-Ape - OK/MN I'm sorry to hear that. Sure maybe our fellow members can help from their perspective as parents.

Yeah, it would just be complaining. Mom and dad have been to many doctors appointments, but my mom refuses to take positive steps that could improve her situation or at least prevent it from worsening. She doesn't exercise, she doesn't volunteer (she's retired), or do a hobby, or read. She just smartphones and watches basic boomer day time TV.

I know it can indeed be frustrating... At least she has access to a smart phone,that's something as far as other information. My dad won't do squat but is probably much older at 78. I'm in full caretaker mode though basically now since he has lived with us the fast 4yrs,but more so the past year.All he does is watch TV all day,refuses to excercise,do any type of hobby or sit outside for sunshine. I have to treat him like a lil kid anymore tell him to shower,eat,everything..

I've gotten him train puzzles,etc,but he won't do them. And only a few times has he decided to play a board game with us..he just wants to lay in bed and zone out on tv,rarely reads anything at all anymore..

But he alao has severe emphysema, so can't do alot of things but he still could do some thingsif he really wanted to but he won't. I have to push him to get anything done..

Damn, that sound really rough. Luckily my mom hasn't yet developed any other conditions, although being an inactive female elder has wrecked her posture and I worry about her bones.

My mom does play sudoku, but far more on FaceBook