Message from Virgil in MacGuyver - Skills & Academics #im-already-in-a-relationship


2018-04-21 06:31:19 UTC  

he wasn't sure how to tag you

2018-04-21 06:31:36 UTC  

probably whoever let you in the server has the same phone as you

2018-04-21 06:36:47 UTC  

Well in all the other servers im in nobody said anything other than "hey did you change your name?"

Oh well

2018-04-22 17:20:36 UTC  

@Pat-MA how do you know if you should leave? Ask yourself if you want to have kids with her. If not, bail.

2018-04-22 19:07:28 UTC  

@Pat-MA basically this. If you've been together so many years you have to figure out what you want for both of your sakes, and as @Deleted User said the natural objective of a relationship is the family

2018-04-23 00:39:19 UTC  

Good takes, goys.

2018-04-29 23:49:49 UTC  

Gf can’t understand why I don’t like it when she drinks and smokes marijuana. I have no problem if she has a drink or two at brunch, mostly the smoking I don’t like. When I give her a hard time she thinks I am trying to change who she is. Anyone else ever deal with this?

2018-04-29 23:51:03 UTC  

Yeah, I don't have a moral problem with weed per say, but habitual use does make you retarded. Smoking in general is unhygienic, a big turn off when females do it.

2018-04-29 23:51:32 UTC  

Maybe I’m being too rigid...

2018-04-29 23:52:04 UTC  

She has toned it down a lot since meeting me

2018-04-29 23:52:29 UTC  

I wouldn't say you are trying to change who she is, smoking is a superficial thing, and superficial things aren't part of a person's core attributes.

2018-04-29 23:52:48 UTC  

Exactly. She doesn’t want to hear it though

2018-04-29 23:53:22 UTC  

https://cdn.discordapp.com/attachments/436337800405581824/440299588637949953/image.jpg

2018-04-29 23:53:36 UTC  

Idk man, if she seems to make an effort about toning it down for you that's good though.

2018-04-29 23:54:54 UTC  

I used to date some people who smoked weed. I know people who smoke once a month and some once a day. One of the most degenerate things I have ever heard was my buddy in college would smoke with his mom and his dad would buy drugs off his friends. I'm not saying that is where things are headed, but the older you get, the less it should be used and there should be a drop off point

2018-04-29 23:55:17 UTC  

Fortunately, that is the direction its going

2018-04-29 23:55:31 UTC  

Weed culture is arguably worse than weed itself

2018-04-29 23:55:40 UTC  

^This

2018-04-29 23:55:49 UTC  

I remember my one experience with pot pretty vividly, I tried and immediately felt pity for the people that had to fuck themselves up this much every day just to cope with reality.

2018-04-29 23:57:38 UTC  

For sure, every transaction is a brush with the law. Not something you would want in a waifu.

2018-04-29 23:58:28 UTC  

Maybe you could try just slowly transitioning her away from it by telling her about the toxicity of the culture

2018-04-30 00:01:23 UTC  

Most people who smoke know it's bad for them and know it's not good culturally. Unless they're major shitlibs who watch AJ+ regularly and think the word marijuana has racial connotations, lmao. I believe that you should keep a record how many times she smokes in a month or two and then you have a proper baseline. See if she can reduce it further and you'll do something for her. Don't make it about how you feel about it culturally. Make it about her health.

2018-04-30 00:02:08 UTC  

@Virgil i think i am doing that at least unconciously a bit. She had a tough home situation growing up- divorced parents, didnt feel loved by her mom, and definitely uses it to cope whether she knows it or not.

2018-04-30 00:02:48 UTC  

Ok yeah I’ll stress her health. But she still says well I can do what I want! Like a little girl

2018-04-30 00:03:13 UTC  

You ever think maybe there's too many red flags you're overlooking?

2018-04-30 00:03:35 UTC  

Maybe you could try introducing her to a new hobby or activity that could help her cope. Like biking, cooking, mma or something to that effect.

2018-04-30 00:05:21 UTC  

Its tough to get her into something new as she is a stubborn irish girl haha. And @TV i did notice some red flags, but I believe the positives greatly outweigh those. And she did have a difficult family situation, so if we were to have a daughter I would not let that happen, and I don’t believe she would either

2018-04-30 00:07:34 UTC  

Marijuana is gay

2018-04-30 00:07:37 UTC  

We have fun, works a ton and very hard, enjoy each others company, takes care of me and vice versa

2018-04-30 00:07:48 UTC  

You need to patrol her

2018-04-30 00:07:48 UTC  

Shes honest truthful and punctual

2018-04-30 00:08:01 UTC  

What do you mean stephanie

2018-04-30 00:08:08 UTC  

Do you wanna marry her and have her be the mother of your kids??

2018-04-30 00:08:25 UTC  

Yeah as long as she doesn’t smoke

2018-04-30 00:08:26 UTC  

Be in charge of her.. if you want her to quit make her quit lol

2018-04-30 00:09:13 UTC  

Have you ever dealt with the stubborn irish?

2018-04-30 00:09:38 UTC  

Maybe tell her you intend to marry her and have her be the mother of your children and you can’t have her smoke if that’s the case

2018-04-30 00:09:47 UTC  

Ok

2018-04-30 00:10:28 UTC  

Yes my bf @Whitelash is a stubborn nibba but I got him to stop smoking by nagging

2018-04-30 00:10:55 UTC  

Nice

2018-04-30 00:11:01 UTC  

Alright then