Message from @Pat-MA
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Cant the mods fix my name independently in each server? If i change it doesnt it change it in every server?
It can't be read on phones because of the font
Im on a phone lol
all we see is boxes with questionmarks in them
Ill change it
Thats lame af
My phone displays it fine. Man... ghey
K gimme a min
Better?
No change?
Legible
Cool
Why has nobody else told me lmao
Its been like that for like two weeks 😂
@Pinochetball I think @Rick alluded to it
he wasn't sure how to tag you
probably whoever let you in the server has the same phone as you
Well in all the other servers im in nobody said anything other than "hey did you change your name?"
Oh well
@Pat-MA how do you know if you should leave? Ask yourself if you want to have kids with her. If not, bail.
@Pat-MA basically this. If you've been together so many years you have to figure out what you want for both of your sakes, and as @Deleted User said the natural objective of a relationship is the family
Gf can’t understand why I don’t like it when she drinks and smokes marijuana. I have no problem if she has a drink or two at brunch, mostly the smoking I don’t like. When I give her a hard time she thinks I am trying to change who she is. Anyone else ever deal with this?
Yeah, I don't have a moral problem with weed per say, but habitual use does make you retarded. Smoking in general is unhygienic, a big turn off when females do it.
Maybe I’m being too rigid...
She has toned it down a lot since meeting me
I wouldn't say you are trying to change who she is, smoking is a superficial thing, and superficial things aren't part of a person's core attributes.
Exactly. She doesn’t want to hear it though
Idk man, if she seems to make an effort about toning it down for you that's good though.
I used to date some people who smoked weed. I know people who smoke once a month and some once a day. One of the most degenerate things I have ever heard was my buddy in college would smoke with his mom and his dad would buy drugs off his friends. I'm not saying that is where things are headed, but the older you get, the less it should be used and there should be a drop off point
Fortunately, that is the direction its going
Weed culture is arguably worse than weed itself
^This
I remember my one experience with pot pretty vividly, I tried and immediately felt pity for the people that had to fuck themselves up this much every day just to cope with reality.
For sure, every transaction is a brush with the law. Not something you would want in a waifu.
Maybe you could try just slowly transitioning her away from it by telling her about the toxicity of the culture
Most people who smoke know it's bad for them and know it's not good culturally. Unless they're major shitlibs who watch AJ+ regularly and think the word marijuana has racial connotations, lmao. I believe that you should keep a record how many times she smokes in a month or two and then you have a proper baseline. See if she can reduce it further and you'll do something for her. Don't make it about how you feel about it culturally. Make it about her health.
@Virgil i think i am doing that at least unconciously a bit. She had a tough home situation growing up- divorced parents, didnt feel loved by her mom, and definitely uses it to cope whether she knows it or not.
Ok yeah I’ll stress her health. But she still says well I can do what I want! Like a little girl
You ever think maybe there's too many red flags you're overlooking?
Maybe you could try introducing her to a new hobby or activity that could help her cope. Like biking, cooking, mma or something to that effect.