Message from @Stephanie

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2018-04-30 00:21:53 UTC  

Yeah she doesnt think theres anything wrong with it

2018-04-30 00:22:00 UTC  

that’s an issue then

2018-04-30 00:22:00 UTC  

But it was the life she grew up with

2018-04-30 00:22:21 UTC  

does she think she can be a proper mother and wife by abusing substances ?

2018-04-30 00:22:42 UTC  

Does she prioritize marriage and motherhood?

2018-04-30 00:22:49 UTC  

Well if i bring that up she says she wont do it if we had kids

2018-04-30 00:22:51 UTC  

start there and everything else will come into place

2018-04-30 00:22:57 UTC  

We all have to outgrow childish things.

2018-04-30 00:23:09 UTC  

Yeah I just want her to outgrow it

2018-04-30 00:23:19 UTC  

How old she is?

2018-04-30 00:23:23 UTC  

26

2018-04-30 00:23:38 UTC  

Oh

2018-04-30 00:23:41 UTC  

Wtfffff

2018-04-30 00:23:41 UTC  

lol

2018-04-30 00:24:08 UTC  

Nope

2018-04-30 00:24:29 UTC  

like I’m 20 and I never did any of that stuff and I’ve always been geared towards marriage and motherhood

2018-04-30 00:24:29 UTC  

I mean I guess everyone is different

2018-04-30 00:24:44 UTC  

Did you grow up in a stable household

2018-04-30 00:24:49 UTC  

You need to get her to grow up lol

2018-04-30 00:25:00 UTC  

Me? Ehhh kinda but not really

2018-04-30 00:25:09 UTC  

I wasn’t instilled with these ideals

2018-04-30 00:25:48 UTC  

Her mom kicked her out of the house when she was 16 so that doesnt help

2018-04-30 00:25:56 UTC  

Had to go live w her dad

2018-04-30 00:26:22 UTC  

That’s rough but hopefully those situations make you stronger and make you want to be better for your future family

2018-04-30 00:26:31 UTC  

that’s my opinion tho

2018-04-30 00:26:37 UTC  

Agreed ^

2018-04-30 00:26:43 UTC  

I’m tryna have 15 kids by 26

2018-04-30 00:27:10 UTC  

Nice

2018-04-30 00:27:15 UTC  

If you show yourself as a strong enough role model with your clean living then she will see how dumb she is being by contrast.

2018-04-30 00:27:23 UTC  

Hopefully

2018-04-30 00:27:29 UTC  

Thats what I’m trying

2018-04-30 00:28:01 UTC  

Lots of people do not grow up in this world we live in. I see it in a lot of my friends too. Im 27

2018-04-30 00:28:38 UTC  

Like all druggies fundamentally are trying to cope with something. If you can show her that she doesn't have to cope with the situation she used to be in then she doesn't have to smoke anymore.

2018-04-30 00:30:21 UTC  

Yeah Ive known that

2018-04-30 00:33:36 UTC  

do you really love her?

2018-04-30 00:33:47 UTC  

or are you just with her because you’ve been with her for so long?

2018-04-30 00:34:10 UTC  

I do love her

2018-04-30 00:34:46 UTC  

okay then you gotta put your foot down and let her know your standards and expectations for her behavior

2018-04-30 00:34:53 UTC  

and make it known you want a future with her

2018-04-30 00:35:12 UTC  

Sounds good

2018-04-30 01:30:25 UTC  

@Pat-MA how long have you two been together?