racist!

@Deleted User don’t get so black pilled. I’ve been married to one for almost 13 years. They’re out there.

I do highly recommend going to church and really committing to being an active member. I was introduced to her by my pastor. There are other young single men in my church but I'm the one who attends the voter's meetings and volunteers for committees.

https://youtu.be/EpVq2Ta0hHk

Randomly came across this, good stuff

#farmrelationships

@celticflame I know that talking to her father is a big deal but what does discussing livestock purchases mean?

@Der Seeteufel - SD how much does a good milk cow go for?

900 - 3000 dollars depending on quality and about 1000 dollars a year to feed if you have summer grass.

@ThisIsChris

My mother's boyfriend runs cattle and he says to assume $2.50 per day. Roughly.

There's lots of variables.

Whole milk = wholesome relationship

We have cows and use them to get massive tax cuts. Look into green-belting your land; we pay 90% less taxes on our property.

That alone makes them worth keeping, if you have a decent enough sized property.

I'll have about 640 acres but part of that will be rented from my uncles.

Most of the land will be devoted to grain crops. Livestock is secondary out here.

At least on my father's land.

My family also takes advantage of many farm related tax breaks and government grants. Most of our facility’s and equipment are reimbursed from government grants.

Can I get goats and get a massive tax ride off?

I have chickens. Do they count too? I am serious.... My family is big

It varies from state to state. I would say more of our grants are from the state government. But as far as tax right offs I am positive there are right offs for live stock. You should check it out.

@Der Seeteufel - SD lol,Honestly I have no clue. Maybe looking into buying land?🤔😋

I am going to look into it. Taxes are ridiculous here. Our property taxes have gone up over a grand in 10 years.... Lived in the same place for 12 years....

My girlfriend told me today that her brother wants to take me hunting for kangaroos when I go to visit her. @Tanner - SC so getting a selfie with one is a real possibility.

'Roo hunting is a thing?

Yeah it's a pretty big thing apparently. She asked me if I had any guns which I thought was weird but apparently her brother is a bit of a gun guy and hunter so he wanted to see what I had.

I think I'll probably get along with him pretty well. She is very close to her brother so I am glad we have something in common.

Oh man, I would be so envious if you pull this off.

The only thing that could make it better is if you drive to/from your hunting spot in a ute.

@Tanner - SC He actually sent me a picture. It's not a ute but it's still pretty Aussie.

Also just for the IE ladies reading the relationships channel, he's single.

All SUVs down there require snorkels...or it seems that way.

When I was down there we had a rental and needed to do two creek crossings.

Mates I’m engaged to a good faithful Christian woman, but how do I trust a woman I love to not use my love as a weapon against me? And how do I tell if she is doing it?

I’m getting the impression that I am being used for my money and for the benefits we will get when we marry, she’s in the engineer corps of the army.

But despite years of knowing each other I can’t trust her completely

I’m just tired it really wasn’t due to anything but that I always get sad when I’m tired go figure lol

Thought there was an issue when I was tired but really I’m just making a mountain out of a mole hill

@Francis V it's not a mole hill. It might not be a mountain either but mistrust is a serious relationship issue. Money is another major problem for a lot of relationships. I would recommend taking to her about your concerns deliberately. First I think it would be a good idea to write them down and go through them yourself and consider consulting your pastor about any issues. Marriage is the most important decision you will ever make in your life. Love definitely can blind us to issues that perhaps a trusted elder can see more clearly. I'd also just like to say in closing that marriage isn't a secular institution. Pray on any concerns and make sure you are building your marriage on a solid foundation in Gods word and not on earthly desires.

@Francis V I don't know much about you or your lady, but there are some non-religious aspects to consider. A woman wanting her mate & potential father of her children to have resources to sustain them is pretty normal. There's a hardwired biological aspect to it, so I wouldn't get too concerned about that part. Seeing as she's Christian, it may even be more prevalent, as religious women often have a desire to take a traditional role.
As far as your love not being used against you: If you are a Christian, then you are already following Christ off of raw faith, you have to put a little bit of faith in her, and she in you.

Having doubts before typing the big knot is normal. Cover your bases, but do not talk yourself out of a good thing because of uncertainties.