>sounds like a spook created by the media

Manipulating statistics for divorce rates to include blacks and high school drop-outs and re-marriages in order to scare white educated men away from marriage, I agree.

Low fertility rates, I don’t see how that would discourage men from seeking to be fathers. If anything, it might encourage more sex. Regardless, the above data doesn’t lie and unlike divorce rates, fertility is unlikely to be affected by as many factors, so the results are more relevant to us.

I'm no medical doctor but this is the only time I've ever seen a scientific source saying you must start so young. Morally speaking I'm all for young families, but practically speaking every family I've known has 3+ kids and started after 23, some in their 30s. One such family started at 35, and their third kid was unplanned ("an accident"). That includes some couples that struggled at first. Saying you need (the woman) to start at 23 just doesn't match up with my experience.

I think it’s because of the 90% confidence interval. That could mean 10% of people are infertile and the rest have kids as soon as they want them. This throws off the average. So it’s not that most people need to start at 23, but that if you include the severely fertile challenged in the data, the average must start at 23.

So how do I ensure I don’t get stuck with a ten-percenter?

Fertility has been lowered by HPV and HPV Vaccines...otherwise, you're fine.

Stay healthy and date healthy.

That’s not enough for me, I’d like a plan. Thus far, I’m leaning towards fertility testing before getting engaged.

The biggest issue of your plan is how to get that testing done without weirding her out.

Don't get me wrong, I'm in favor of it. I just don't know how to even go about bringing it up. It seems hard enough to do in the case where a husband and wife have tried and failed for a while.

It's asking a woman to potentially unveil the most brutal of truths.

You could >stumble upon information, and in a roundabout way make her think it's her own idea to find out?

lol

“Hey I found out there are great ways to test one’s fertility, here are my results; let’s see yours”?

@Tanner - SC I think this is the only way to make it turn out well

man, modernity is so weird

Don’t ask your girlfriend to take a fertility test lol.

Geez most people are afraid of having kids because of the...media...

We are fortunate.

The new Murdoch Murdoch knows what I’m talking about:
<https://youtu.be/s76QB5wiOlY>

MURDOCH-CHAN NOOOOO

@Tanner - SC haha that's great

Ultrasounds and bloodtests from a gynecologist can give a lot of insight. Not a 100% guarantee (which doesn't exist) but it will lead to a better understanding of her ability to carry.

Thanks y’all, that’s a plan I can follow.

I know I’m late to the party @Tanner - SC but you can tell a lot about fertility by appearance. Also was she on the pill? That stuff can mess with her health in many ways. I go married to a 28 yo when I was in my mid thirties. Two kids down and looking to have number 3 before she is 32.

I know I'm a bit late this too so... There are 14yrs btwn my hubby & I, I got married at 21,but had my daughter at 23. I know myself & Hubby are both "Fertile Myrtles", so it goes without saying that the 2 older Stepkids are Fertile but my step daughter has a harder time delivering. My own daughter I believe will be like me,so has also done the Norplant until she's ready some years later.

I think asking a woman outright about her Fertility would likely freak most out. So like above as mentioned..,its always good to ask what the mom,sisters, aunts have been like as far as getting pregnant right away,etc.

https://www.kdlt.com/2018/10/02/south-dakota-supreme-court-hears-alienation-of-affection-case/

I thought this was pretty interesting. I'm surprised SD still has this law. I hope it stays.

Dueling should be brought back

Seconded

I hope it grows to other states!

I don't think that is going to happen. Honestly this law might not even survive this case.

This is the best book on relationships I’ve ever read.
https://www.audible.com/pd/The-5-Love-Languages-for-Men-Audiobook/B00SI7P9QC

I have the generic 5 languages book. I will check out the for men version. thanks for the recommend

Yeah I've taken two marriage courses both mentioned 5 love languages

What does it mean when a girl asks "what are your stats?"

Asking for a friend

I sincerely hope that's not in reference to body count, ugh.

I think she wants to know your strength, dexterity, constitution, intelligence, wisdom, and charisma. Check your character sheet.

Height, weight, bench press, squat, hair eye color? AncestryDNA results?

Send her all your lift stats. Deadlift, squat, bench, pull ups. She’ll laugh and then clarify what she meant.

Or if you’re a car guy, send your horsepower, cylinder count, brake piston count, wheelbase, curb weight, etc.

She was just a random girl on the bus. I was just wondering what she meant