Message from @Gaius Mucius Scaevola

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2018-04-19 01:54:00 UTC  

Just be careful you don't get friendzoned. Texting too much can do that

2018-04-19 01:54:50 UTC  

yeah i've been avoiding texting her

2018-04-19 01:54:53 UTC  

if she initiates i respond

2018-04-19 01:55:02 UTC  

and if she initiates several times in a row i might text her

2018-04-19 01:55:07 UTC  

but i dont' like texting in general

2018-04-19 02:01:44 UTC  

you prevent being friendzoned by "keeping it man to woman". i would text her when you have something to say

2018-04-19 02:02:14 UTC  

if you do not text her much she may perceive that as disinterest

2018-04-19 02:02:38 UTC  

i would sit next to her at church every week

2018-04-19 02:03:31 UTC  

"you prevent being friendzoned by "keeping it man to woman". i would text her when you have something to say" great way to put it @Zyzz .

It's about making your intentions clear

2018-04-19 02:03:43 UTC  

^

2018-04-19 02:04:06 UTC  

if i get to church after her and she is alone i will sit next to her

2018-04-19 02:04:34 UTC  

text her before church and ask her if she'd like to sit next to you

2018-04-19 02:04:48 UTC  

good idea

2018-04-19 02:04:51 UTC  

this is how you make your intentions clear

2018-04-19 02:04:57 UTC  

and then i will talk to her after church, regardless

2018-04-19 02:05:30 UTC  

Definitely ask her to hang out again though man-that seems like its what you want to do

2018-04-19 02:05:53 UTC  

@Gaius Mucius Scaevola you could also ask her if you could take her to coffee after church or walk her home

2018-04-19 02:06:25 UTC  

she lives a half hour drive away from our church

2018-04-19 02:06:30 UTC  

and comes to church with her family

2018-04-19 02:06:40 UTC  

but i think i could ask if she wants to get lunch and give her a ride home

2018-04-19 02:06:46 UTC  

i think i will do that

2018-04-19 02:07:23 UTC  

Well said @Zyzz

2018-04-19 02:07:48 UTC  

Good idea. If she makes up some silly excuse, then maybe she is not mature enough for you

2018-04-19 02:09:02 UTC  

how do i differentiate silly excuse from legitimate excuse?

2018-04-19 02:09:56 UTC  

If she pulls something like ohhh uuhh im busy or have schoolwork or have to walk my dog, thats silly. Legit would be like oh I have to go visit my grandmother in the hospital

2018-04-19 02:10:49 UTC  

I think it's important too to see if she will offer another time if she's busy. If she does then she's probably interested in you

2018-04-19 02:10:53 UTC  

Last thing you could do is say ok, when are you free? If she says not until the end of the semester I would call her out jokingly

2018-04-19 02:11:17 UTC  

someone will thoroughly explain a legitimate excuse.

2018-04-19 02:11:56 UTC  

it also the feeling you get from how she responds.. learn to trust intuition

2018-04-19 02:12:58 UTC  

if she gives an excuse i'll just say "alright let me know when you're free for a date" and wait to see if she ever actually lets me know

2018-04-19 02:13:36 UTC  

@Gaius Mucius Scaevola one thing I would throw in there. even though 18-22/23 isn't unheard of, it really is quite a huge difference

2018-04-19 02:13:56 UTC  

according to the half your age+7 rule she's at my lower limit

2018-04-19 02:14:10 UTC  

but she is really gorgeous and trad

2018-04-19 02:14:55 UTC  

its rare for a girl to ever follow up with someone about when they are free for a date.. it is best to ask "so when are you free?"

2018-04-19 02:15:34 UTC  

if she can't do brunch after church one of these weeks soon should i ask her again once the semester is over?

2018-04-19 02:16:16 UTC  

@Gaius Mucius Scaevola I would play it by ear, meet her at Church, ask how things are going

2018-04-19 02:16:33 UTC  

if she's light on details then move on

2018-04-19 02:16:50 UTC  

she hasn't initiated texting in a while

2018-04-19 02:16:55 UTC  

so i guess i'll just play it by ear

2018-04-19 02:16:59 UTC  

tfw no gf until then

2018-04-19 02:17:21 UTC  

Don't worry man you are wicked young. And as you get older, you will meet more mature girls