1. "She'll probably hit me up."
2. "why would she show interest in me and invite me to sit next to her if she wasn't interested in me?"
3. "i'll just ask her again sometime."
4. "tfw no trad orthodox church girl gf"
5. "probably wouldn't have worked out anyway"

haha amazing

IMO, the problem is one-itis. Find another lead or two and pursue them, then consider coming back to this one after the focus is not so narrow and naturally your confidence around her will be higher too.

^

The women on Christian Mingle are incredibly traditional. Multiple profiles saying their main life goal is to be a good mother.

Already back into it, good for you, @Tanner - SC

Yeah, religion can be a good proxy for traditionalism. I know a few guys that met their wives at church

I heard this pick-up line is really effective:
Fight demographic decline, be mine!

So I'm about to go meet a girl from my church who has traveled all the way from Australia to look for a christian husband. We've sent a few emails back and forth but today I'm actually going to meet her in person. Any last minute advice?

Dood nice

@Der Seeteufel - SD I suggest giving extra attention to making her feel comfortable, even if she is enthusiastic, travelling to a new country to meet a man she hasn't met IRL before must be very stressful! Also she's there to learn about you, so show her around places important to you. (Did you clean your room?) House, maybe a quick pass by your work site, church, town center or wherever else you like to hang out.

We are going to meet at a church retreat in another state so she won't see my house, but my house is pretty clean. I don't actually live there most of the time because I get room and board where I work.

Don’t act like she is the only woman you’ve ever been around. Treat her like you would want a man to treat your daughter.

Make her laugh. Always make them laugh.

Two fish are in a tank, one says to the other "How do you drive this thing?"

Okay maybe don’t lead with that but you get the idea

I think I’ve figured out online dating. I recommend eHarmony, Christian Mingle, and Match.
* The messaging feature is not to introduce yourself, it’s not to flirt, it’s not to get to know them better.
* Just hit the “like” button on the girls you like.
* Put the rest of your effort into your profile itself and analyzing their profile before hitting “like”.
* If she “likes” you back, you proceed straight to asking her out via message. “Want to do <activity> on <> day at <> place at <> time?”
* If she accepts, “Great, see you then.”
* Do all further courting and vetting in person.
* If the date goes well, get her phone number and make further contact through phone/text.

^Accurate

@Tanner - SC good insight

@Tanner - SC that's good advice for texting a girl you met IRL too. Just ask her out, plan logistics and that's it. No reason to be too chatty. Guys worry about what they should say too much. If she's interested, you hardly have to say anything.

Tbh most girls I’ve met online like to chat in varying amounts prior to meeting in person. I’ve even spoken to a few on the phone. I think it’s a way for them to get comfortable with you prior to meeting face to face. We need to understand a girls experience with online dating is very different from ours. There are a lot of poorly socially adjusted people out there and many guys are just looking for hook ups. Chances are the girl you met wants to make sure you are neither of these people. If she wants to chat with you I would be receptive to make her as comfortable with you as you can

@Zyzz re: "there are a lot of poorly socially adapted people out there" hmm maybe we should start a dating site with IE-style vetting and rules

@Zyzz what apps were you using? No one looks for hooks ups on eHarmony. Plus, I make it clear in my profile what I’m seeking.

@TV She may also want to verify that you're a real person. Plenty of fake profiles out there that are used to lure women into unsafe situations. It's a real concern.

@TV She may also want to verify that you're a real person. Plenty of fake profiles out there that are used to lure women into unsafe situations. It's a real concern.

@Tanner - SC I use match, hinge, bumble, coffee meets bagel, and I am still on lesser apps like tinder and OkC. I have been out with girls from Match who complain about men they’ve met on Match and other dating apps. Guys will say one thing and go for another. Not everyone is upfront and honest these days. And girls are correct to be suspicious and distrusting initially. The only thing you can do as a man is understand how they feel and try to put them at ease. Stating your intent is a good start.

Do y’all think exclusivity should exist on the first date? Or are you fine with going on dates with multiple people at first and becoming exclusive with one after a few dates?

@Tanner - SC I think it should be, but it is not. Do not let anyone tell you otherwise. You can make your intent known that you are looking for something serious, I'd advise against it unless it comes up naturally, but never make it exclusive on the first date. You just met them.

Generally, you can date multiple people unless somebody "DTR's" which is define the relationship, a talk where you tell the girl to stop seeing others and you will too

Depends on how well it goes, and it should be communicated

@Deleted User Yeah, as you said. Communicate it. Never assume that she's not seeing others because you aren't. Spell it out what you want and if what you want is her

Now, also, going on a date is different than dating. Dating tends to imply seeing them for a bit. I don't see anything wrong with going on dates with multiple people to narrow the field, but your goal should be to make a choice. A company interviews three candidates for any position. Shouldn't you do likewise for the woman you are going to spend awhile with?

@Tanner - SC I second literally everything Washington said

@Tanner - SC Since the first date may be a last date...no, but the second date better be exclusive, I think if one is committed enough to agree to a second date, they are either using you for free dinner, or you are the one for now. So if they have other dates, they're using, if it's just you, on date 2, person is "well adjusted" to quote the great Stephen Bennett.

This seems like signing up for an inevitable hack and doxx list:
https://www.amren.com/news/2018/02/new-white-dating-site/

Not to mention that there will be literally no women on that site.

Publicize it to women only groups on facebook using a fake ACC

You could do a great deal in an afternoon for that site.

I'm already on whitedate.net

The women are spread out.