Okay maybe don’t lead with that but you get the idea

I think I’ve figured out online dating. I recommend eHarmony, Christian Mingle, and Match.
* The messaging feature is not to introduce yourself, it’s not to flirt, it’s not to get to know them better.
* Just hit the “like” button on the girls you like.
* Put the rest of your effort into your profile itself and analyzing their profile before hitting “like”.
* If she “likes” you back, you proceed straight to asking her out via message. “Want to do <activity> on <> day at <> place at <> time?”
* If she accepts, “Great, see you then.”
* Do all further courting and vetting in person.
* If the date goes well, get her phone number and make further contact through phone/text.

^Accurate

@Tanner - SC good insight

@Tanner - SC that's good advice for texting a girl you met IRL too. Just ask her out, plan logistics and that's it. No reason to be too chatty. Guys worry about what they should say too much. If she's interested, you hardly have to say anything.

Tbh most girls I’ve met online like to chat in varying amounts prior to meeting in person. I’ve even spoken to a few on the phone. I think it’s a way for them to get comfortable with you prior to meeting face to face. We need to understand a girls experience with online dating is very different from ours. There are a lot of poorly socially adjusted people out there and many guys are just looking for hook ups. Chances are the girl you met wants to make sure you are neither of these people. If she wants to chat with you I would be receptive to make her as comfortable with you as you can

@Zyzz re: "there are a lot of poorly socially adapted people out there" hmm maybe we should start a dating site with IE-style vetting and rules

@Zyzz what apps were you using? No one looks for hooks ups on eHarmony. Plus, I make it clear in my profile what I’m seeking.

@TV She may also want to verify that you're a real person. Plenty of fake profiles out there that are used to lure women into unsafe situations. It's a real concern.

@TV She may also want to verify that you're a real person. Plenty of fake profiles out there that are used to lure women into unsafe situations. It's a real concern.

@Tanner - SC I use match, hinge, bumble, coffee meets bagel, and I am still on lesser apps like tinder and OkC. I have been out with girls from Match who complain about men they’ve met on Match and other dating apps. Guys will say one thing and go for another. Not everyone is upfront and honest these days. And girls are correct to be suspicious and distrusting initially. The only thing you can do as a man is understand how they feel and try to put them at ease. Stating your intent is a good start.

Do y’all think exclusivity should exist on the first date? Or are you fine with going on dates with multiple people at first and becoming exclusive with one after a few dates?

@Tanner - SC I think it should be, but it is not. Do not let anyone tell you otherwise. You can make your intent known that you are looking for something serious, I'd advise against it unless it comes up naturally, but never make it exclusive on the first date. You just met them.

Generally, you can date multiple people unless somebody "DTR's" which is define the relationship, a talk where you tell the girl to stop seeing others and you will too

Depends on how well it goes, and it should be communicated

@Deleted User Yeah, as you said. Communicate it. Never assume that she's not seeing others because you aren't. Spell it out what you want and if what you want is her

Now, also, going on a date is different than dating. Dating tends to imply seeing them for a bit. I don't see anything wrong with going on dates with multiple people to narrow the field, but your goal should be to make a choice. A company interviews three candidates for any position. Shouldn't you do likewise for the woman you are going to spend awhile with?

@Tanner - SC I second literally everything Washington said

@Tanner - SC Since the first date may be a last date...no, but the second date better be exclusive, I think if one is committed enough to agree to a second date, they are either using you for free dinner, or you are the one for now. So if they have other dates, they're using, if it's just you, on date 2, person is "well adjusted" to quote the great Stephen Bennett.

This seems like signing up for an inevitable hack and doxx list:
https://www.amren.com/news/2018/02/new-white-dating-site/

Not to mention that there will be literally no women on that site.

Publicize it to women only groups on facebook using a fake ACC

You could do a great deal in an afternoon for that site.

I'm already on whitedate.net

The women are spread out.

Membership is free until they hit 10k members if memory serves

@Freiheit - CA Is the site any good?

Not very populated but not full of degenerates.

The search filters are a little buggy sometimes.

Haven't been on in a while.

Am I doing this tinder thing correctly?

@Der Seeteufel - SD Maybe don’t try tinder.

No use the app to get her out on a date. From there you ask more personal questions. But also, yeah don’t expect much on tinder

Use the app for light screening

@Zyzz At that point in the conversation I'm assuming Andrew was like, "Eff it."

Agreed. Use it as a vehicle to propose a date after about one or two questions/talking, get their cellphone number as another POC, and then schedule the date shortly after

I have a picture of me in a trump hat which screens a lot of degenerates

“Swipe based on your political preferences”

@Zyzz Agreed. Tinder is good for screening what you want and don't want. It's at your discretion. I've seen very trad girls on Tinder, mostly garbage but trad chicks very seldom. Still they exist. It's your job to swipe left on thots

@Washington I literally swipe right on all of them and only pay attention to them if we match. If they are not what I want I will unmatch. Online dating is a filtering tool and the least amount of work you can put in to get a girl out on a date should be the goal

It’s literally a funnel and a numbers game

I use copy and paste openers and screening questions