Message from SuperTomPerry -RI in MacGuyver - Skills & Academics #i-am-dating

2018-09-10 21:52:14 UTC  

Ambiguous. Could be a joke coming from anyone,

2018-09-10 21:52:15 UTC  

Or does it mean they’re content with dogs being surrogate children for them, forever?

2018-09-10 21:52:29 UTC  

Would have to have more context

2018-09-10 22:43:04 UTC  

Usually it means they're trying to replace children with pets, unless they're really young

2018-09-11 14:56:33 UTC  

It’s a way to channel maternal instinct without the responsibility of children. Honestly, to understand the psychological reasoning, just google “no children buzzfeed.” Spells it out in plain English. @Tanner - SC

2018-09-12 02:38:27 UTC  

Update to my online dating findings/guesses:
* Don’t send a “like” or a “wink”. That’s validation without content and is low-effort. It’s like submitting your resume to online job postings with no cover letter and no in-person networking. Very low success rate. It also doesn’t have the traditional feel of a man taking a risk and initiating contact. A “like” doesn’t mean much, even the neediest guy is likely undisturbed if he doesn’t get a “like” back. Sending a message is initiating a conversation, more relevant to physical courtship. When a woman doesn’t respond to a message, it’s a more real rejection. You as a man are putting yourself out there more with a message, without being more needy, more like being courageous/vulnerable.
* “Likes” are more for women to initiate interest with a man. Messages are more for men to initiate interest with a woman.
* Send a one-sentence question relevant to the woman’s profile. It shows that you actually read her profile, not just felt a twitch in your pants when looking at her pic. If she doesn’t have much information in her profile, she must not be serious about trying to find a serious date. Don’t introduce yourself, don’t say how you liked this part of her profile. Just ask her a question relevant to her background/interests to strike a conversation. Same as if you were at lunch with male coworkers and one of them mentioned their hobby or something and you’re looking to continue the conversation. Try to not be basic in your message. The question can be a joke, but doesn’t need to be. More than one sentence can appear overly invested for an initial contact.
* She gets a hundred “likes” each week. She only gets dozens of messages. She gets a single digit number of messages that are higher brow than “hey babe”. When she gets a higher brow message, she’ll likely be prompted to look at your profile. If she likes your profile, she’ll respond.

2018-09-12 12:59:26 UTC  

I absolutely agree, good point. Updated.

2018-09-12 15:22:53 UTC  

I am relieved I found my wife early in life before internet dating was a thing.

2018-09-14 17:30:02 UTC  

I need your help borthers. I have a date with a qt I met at the mall, (I thought she was wearing a generation identity shirt but it was actually a stylized overwatch logo, per the meme) she kinda seems like a twitch thot but seems pretty into me from texting a bit. Anyway we are going to a museum which I am worried will set off my autism any ideas on how to appear normal?

2018-09-14 17:32:08 UTC  

"just be yourself" - Chad

2018-09-14 17:43:24 UTC  

Sounds like a solid strategy

2018-09-14 17:45:25 UTC  

don't underestimate how much people like to talk about themselves lol. If you can ask the right questions, she'll go on forever

2018-09-14 17:49:44 UTC  

So I should try to strike a balance between getting the focus of the conversation on her without showing too much interest right? I've kind of heard that part both ways, in terms of being aloof or showing genuine interest.

2018-09-14 17:50:03 UTC  

@missliterallywho funny how women feel like that when they talk alot

2018-09-14 17:51:11 UTC  

Yet guys will ramble on and on without a thought, I wonder if it's women are just more aware of their effect on the surrounding environment, although why I don't know

2018-09-14 17:53:50 UTC  

The same way women will cover their mouth when chewing, I always find it funny in an odd way

2018-09-14 17:54:36 UTC  

They acknowledge their actions in the world around them, with a specific set of rules thats seem to apply only to them

2018-09-14 17:57:26 UTC  

Ive been on both sides of it, if we are talking about a topic I like and the girl seems intelligent then I usually am interested in what she is saying but ive also just nodded along when girls gab on , more so when its about somthing stupid, and the only reason to pay attention is cause shes cute. So then its fake

2018-09-14 17:59:36 UTC  

You seem more interested in how they brought you to speak so much and easily when normally you don't but maybe you hit a topic you enjoyed speaking about that normally you dont get a chance to talk about. Or maybe your just socially awkward hence you dont say much and when you are able to talk in a comfortable setting with a seemingly interested person you gab on

2018-09-14 17:59:58 UTC  

Which I can kind of speak from experience there because I use to do that.

2018-09-14 18:11:23 UTC  

Yea I do the same thing with strangers go way to into personal details, not sure why i was homeschooled maybe thats why. I dont know. But ive become alot less socially awkward thr older I get

2018-09-14 18:11:41 UTC  

But it's still there..haha

2018-09-14 18:18:32 UTC  


2018-09-14 18:18:45 UTC  

Thats a good thing in my mind

2018-09-15 01:24:44 UTC  
2018-09-15 01:29:17 UTC  

@ThisIsChris Going to a museum tomorrow. Texted a bit with some of the advice from you fine people, (getting her to talk about herself ect)

2018-09-15 01:29:59 UTC  

wholesome! have fun!

2018-09-15 03:01:56 UTC  

I'm in no position to give advice. Good luck!

2018-09-29 01:01:00 UTC  

Fresh OC from me:

2018-10-07 03:17:20 UTC  

My sister is working on setting me up with an old basketball friend who is 6'5". Talked with the girl's sister who said she'd probably be into it. She's never dated much because "1. She'll only date taller guys [I am 6'9"], but she doesn't like black guys."

2018-10-07 03:42:49 UTC  

Tall if true

2018-10-07 03:53:58 UTC  

I met her years ago when my sister and she played ball. But yes, 6'7" average relationship height if it works out.

2018-10-07 03:54:33 UTC  

IE eugenics program

2018-10-07 04:02:44 UTC  


2018-10-07 04:44:18 UTC  

Marriage is for eugenics. Whatever you got, get more or get something good to go with it.

2018-10-07 04:45:32 UTC  

I was *sheeshing* at the heights, not the eugenics part 😉

2018-10-07 04:48:05 UTC  

Oh yeah. I'm a total freak. Shorter than me dad, though.

2018-10-07 16:01:55 UTC  
2018-10-08 00:50:44 UTC  

Christ dude!

2018-10-08 00:51:09 UTC  

best of luck on your date

2018-10-08 00:52:35 UTC  

No date is arranged yet. Perhaps jinxing it... We'll see. I'm trying to get contacts and a haircut before the first meet up.
And back to church for at least a week or two. She's a pastor's daughter. -__-'
I read most of the New Testament this summer, and listen to the godcast weekly. So I'm pretty well versed in scripture.
That could be my biggest difficulty.