Message from micbwilli in MacGuyver - Skills & Academics #i-am-single

2018-06-08 02:53:27 UTC  

There's entire books about this sort of stuff, but just asking is probably the easiest option. If you don't want to be super obvious just ask her to do something alone with you.

2018-06-08 02:53:40 UTC  

tbh i'm not sure if I'm into her

2018-06-08 02:53:49 UTC  

there's a girl in my martial arts class who started at the same time as me

2018-06-08 02:54:01 UTC  

and all this time I have no idea if she's just been friendly with me or trying to subtley tell me she's into me

2018-06-08 02:54:15 UTC  

so I'm just hoping for some kind of wisdom so I could differentiate

2018-06-08 02:56:44 UTC  

Yeah if you're not really interested in her then I would just not even worry about it. Just do what you normally do and let her escalate things if that's what she wants to do.

2018-06-08 02:57:13 UTC  

>escalating things

2018-06-08 02:59:11 UTC  

Well if you are not interested and she likes you and she never says anything that's not really your problem.

2018-06-08 02:59:20 UTC  

fair enough

2018-06-08 13:04:03 UTC  

@Gaius Mucius Scaevola look up IOIs (indicators of interest). Study these and eventually you’ll be able to tell on your own if she’s into you.

2018-06-08 13:08:33 UTC  

Newly single. Advice on looking for someone who could be considered "marriage material?"

And/or what should be some basic criteria to look for?

2018-06-08 13:45:27 UTC  

I might be biased, but, being an IE member is a good start

2018-06-08 13:48:04 UTC  

IE > general population

2018-06-08 13:55:32 UTC  

True, and I'd agree. But what would list as criteria to look for, in terms of character?

2018-06-08 15:35:28 UTC  

@SamanthaM I think some important qualities in a partner are:
1. Able to communicate with you comfortably.
2. Being able to separate who you are as a person apart from what your emotional state might happen to be at one particular time.
3. Looking to make you comfortable.
I think these 3 go both ways in a successful relationship.

2018-06-08 23:13:13 UTC  

@SamanthaM are you asking for yourself?

2018-06-08 23:34:20 UTC  

@SamanthaM being a single women in IE is an absolute jackpot. idk if you go to meet ups but if not you should. the people(men) who i have met here are top quality. in terms of your question, i'd say someone who conveys to you that they want marriage and kids in the not so distant future. as in, someone who expresses intent and does so routinely. someone who isnt afraid of commitment.

2018-06-08 23:34:57 UTC  

also someone with their career together. as in, they have a job they like and they have a path to advancement

2018-06-08 23:35:22 UTC  

guys need to be financially secure in order to be available for marriage/kids

2018-06-09 00:29:25 UTC

2018-06-09 00:29:27 UTC  

Come on ladies. Wheat fields are standing by.

2018-06-09 00:39:36 UTC  

I just want to put this out there. I'm currently tied down, but if any IE girls need some dating profile pics I literally have access to thousands of acres of wheat.

2018-06-09 00:41:03 UTC  

It's almost ready too.

2018-06-09 00:45:11 UTC  

@micbwilli you're already married right?

2018-06-09 00:46:18 UTC  

No but I'm not looking. I just kinda see post here and check them out. I'm discord obsessive and can't stand unread messages.

2018-06-09 00:46:41 UTC  

I don't even know why I was added to this part of the server.

2018-06-09 00:50:24 UTC  

I'm not a lady bro... 😅

2018-06-09 00:50:52 UTC  

ya'll can still get married

2018-06-09 00:50:53 UTC  

no homo

2018-06-09 00:51:00 UTC  

Oh goyd I'm sorry bro!

2018-06-09 00:51:20 UTC  

No worries. 👌

2018-06-09 00:51:46 UTC  

The puppy avatar threw me off.

2018-06-09 01:07:40 UTC  

Is the new one better?

2018-06-09 01:42:59 UTC  

@micbwilli very unambiguous

2018-06-09 02:24:38 UTC  

@ThisIsChris @Zyzz Thank you for the advice. Yes, it would be nice to have an honest talk about career and finances. Not asking for a lot, but maybe it would be nice to know any prospective children could have a decent future.
Just looking for someone who would be "in charge," if that makes any sense?

2018-06-09 02:27:25 UTC  

@SamanthaM Of course, sounds like what I would describe as "a stable family oriented person", seems reasonable to me.

2018-06-09 02:27:27 UTC  

@SamanthaM Yeah i think the only responsible thing to do is to make sure your career/finances are in order prior to bringing children into this world. Nearly all women want a man who is "manly" as in they are masculine. A part of masculinity is the willingness and ability to lead or take charge

2018-06-09 02:46:57 UTC  

Ok, so honest question, and this is probably asking too much of someone, but I have the responsibility of taking over a family business. Ideally, it would be great if there was someone was interested in both kids, and a small business. Is that too high a criteria to look for?

2018-06-09 02:49:23 UTC  

@SamanthaM I don't think so, that's effectively what my wife and I are going for. Actually in my view I think it is quite normal as (professional and stable) people get older that they strongly consider having their own small business, and only don't do so if they have a great opportunity elsewhere.

2018-06-09 02:50:05 UTC  

i wouldnt force him into it, no. with that said he should be able to understand the opportunity you have and be willing to let you do what you need to do

2018-06-09 02:50:35 UTC  

he may want to pursue another career path and thats fine