Message from NeoRealist in MacGuyver - Skills & Academics #i-am-single

2018-05-21 21:39:31 UTC  

If you are under ~28-30, etc. there is no reason you should settle for less. You should be focusing on you, your skills, your fitness, your career, etc. and trying to better yourself to the point where you can "have any woman you want"

2018-05-21 21:42:28 UTC  

Varg didn't start having kids till he was like 35

2018-05-21 23:17:48 UTC  

To be fair the rest of the time he was in prison lol

2018-05-21 23:21:06 UTC  

I think what he meant was that you have to actually step up and be a leader. No woman is going to meet all of your expectations right out of the gate...

2018-05-21 23:21:31 UTC  

Not really about settling for less

2018-05-21 23:22:23 UTC  

Yeah that perfect person in your head doesn't exist

2018-05-21 23:23:22 UTC  

its important to put into perspective that your SO may have attributes that may be less than ideal. You need to decide if you can live with this. No one is perfect

2018-05-21 23:23:50 UTC  

Surely we all have deal breakers but i think its important to not have an infinite number of them

2018-05-21 23:24:26 UTC  

"you've got to learn to live with what you can't rise above if you want to make it down into this tunnel of love"-Bruce Springsteen

2018-05-21 23:26:58 UTC  

At the end of the day you're lucky to just find one willing to grow with you

2018-05-21 23:27:00 UTC  

"elbows too pointy. NEXT!"

2018-05-21 23:28:38 UTC  

Yeah, I think any well adjusted person realizes this.

2018-05-21 23:28:45 UTC  

Everyone is flawed and a work in progress

2018-05-22 06:03:09 UTC  

Does anyone know any good dating apps that aren't scams or structured like a gimmick

2018-05-22 06:04:11 UTC  

Idk man, the idea of dating apps is kinda flawed, like only broken women who can't get a date irl are on them in my experience.

2018-05-22 06:04:32 UTC  
2018-05-22 06:04:45 UTC  

It's just getting off the ground

2018-05-22 06:04:53 UTC  

Oh wow

2018-05-22 06:04:53 UTC  

Can't vouch for it

2018-05-22 06:05:12 UTC  

Just know it exists

2018-05-22 06:14:53 UTC  

Less than 2k members though

2018-05-30 13:53:06 UTC  

Wheat field update #3: Due to a continuing lack of women we have decided to fertilize the wheat fields. Will update again in 15 days.

2018-06-08 02:46:29 UTC  

how do you tell the difference between a girl just being nice to you/platonically friendly and her giving signs she's into you?

2018-06-08 02:53:27 UTC  

There's entire books about this sort of stuff, but just asking is probably the easiest option. If you don't want to be super obvious just ask her to do something alone with you.

2018-06-08 02:53:40 UTC  

tbh i'm not sure if I'm into her

2018-06-08 02:53:49 UTC  

there's a girl in my martial arts class who started at the same time as me

2018-06-08 02:54:01 UTC  

and all this time I have no idea if she's just been friendly with me or trying to subtley tell me she's into me

2018-06-08 02:54:15 UTC  

so I'm just hoping for some kind of wisdom so I could differentiate

2018-06-08 02:56:44 UTC  

Yeah if you're not really interested in her then I would just not even worry about it. Just do what you normally do and let her escalate things if that's what she wants to do.

2018-06-08 02:57:13 UTC  

>escalating things

2018-06-08 02:59:11 UTC  

Well if you are not interested and she likes you and she never says anything that's not really your problem.

2018-06-08 02:59:20 UTC  

fair enough

2018-06-08 13:04:03 UTC  

@Gaius Mucius Scaevola look up IOIs (indicators of interest). Study these and eventually you’ll be able to tell on your own if she’s into you.

2018-06-08 13:08:33 UTC  

Newly single. Advice on looking for someone who could be considered "marriage material?"

And/or what should be some basic criteria to look for?

2018-06-08 13:45:27 UTC  

I might be biased, but, being an IE member is a good start

2018-06-08 13:48:04 UTC  

IE > general population

2018-06-08 13:55:32 UTC  

True, and I'd agree. But what would list as criteria to look for, in terms of character?

2018-06-08 15:35:28 UTC  

@SamanthaM I think some important qualities in a partner are:
1. Able to communicate with you comfortably.
2. Being able to separate who you are as a person apart from what your emotional state might happen to be at one particular time.
3. Looking to make you comfortable.
I think these 3 go both ways in a successful relationship.

2018-06-08 23:13:13 UTC  

@SamanthaM are you asking for yourself?

2018-06-08 23:34:20 UTC  

@SamanthaM being a single women in IE is an absolute jackpot. idk if you go to meet ups but if not you should. the people(men) who i have met here are top quality. in terms of your question, i'd say someone who conveys to you that they want marriage and kids in the not so distant future. as in, someone who expresses intent and does so routinely. someone who isnt afraid of commitment.

2018-06-08 23:34:57 UTC  

also someone with their career together. as in, they have a job they like and they have a path to advancement