Message from @Tanner - SC
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Also if you're in college, there's no reason to be using disreputable dating apps, let alone tinder. Just go to the quad, student activities center, library, gym, book club, tutoring center, academic clubs, or whatever and just talk to girls.
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THIS!!!
@ThisIsChris I think what a lot of people have an issue with is how exactly to just go up to someone in public and just start having a conversation
@Jacob "Hey there I'm Jacob, nice to meet you, do you come here often/some weather today huh/you look nice and I'd like to get to know you."
"what do you think of this lecture/book/game/new building/day"
"yeah I chose to come here today because I'm completely new to it and wanted to learn more. I would like to continue this conversation sometime would you like to meet for coffee [at some time during daylight in the next few days] at [some place in public]?"
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Unless you're really good looking and outgoing, a lot of those will come across as creepy.
Certain dating apps are fine because then you know she's looking for a relationship too. Hookup apps like tinder should be avoided like the plague though.
You can really meet anyone anywheee
Anywhere
I met my boyfriend at a pet shop and he’s in IE lmao
The main problem with talking to grils irl is that unless you are above a certain threshold of looks they won't give you the time of day.
@NITRODUBS okay that's pretty chad tbh
to approach a girl in a pet shop and manage to get her into IE
Well, kinda other way around lmao
He didn’t know IE existed but he had these beliefs
He joined probably a week or two after me.
It was just so awkward the first two dates because he assumed I was a lefty
that's actually kinda crazy
I wonder if I'll ever meet identitarians in stores without expecting it
My local Catholic young adults group has far more women than men and they're all traditional. It's great.
We all look so normal it’s hard to realize it
While I was home I struck up a convo with based and redpilled girl in my area. From that wasp love website. However we never got to meet in person. I did ask her to apply to IE if she wanted to get more involved.
@NITRODUBS "we all look so normal it's hard to realize it" Exactly what we look for in IE candidates!
@TMatthews Re: looks and being outgoing, Yes of course I think there is a bare standard for looks a guy should have to be successful in meeting girls but I don't think it's sky high, basically don't be a slob, go to the gym once in a while, and walk a lot (this certainly gets harder if you get a desk job). As for being outgoing I think if you are able to see things from the girl's perspective then you will avoid most social mistakes. Good practice would be to imagine you're hanging out in your quad or w/e, and a girl strikes up a conversation with you. Asking how would you feel and how would you react.
@TMatthews To your comment about looks.
Of course looks matter, but dont use that as an excuse to limit yourself.
Guys like Ryan Gosling show us how to do it. Gosling isn't a classically handsome guy, but he's is in fairly good shape, his clothes are tailored and he keeps a fresh haircut.
Do those basic things while carrying yourself with some genuine confidence, and you are good to go!
@Tyler0317 For me personally, starting a conversation at random wouldn't feel genuine.
I like the idea of a dating app because you can talk a bit and see if the other person is interested in a real relationship (I'm in college, so hookup culture is rampant). I think it's good to start on the same page, but I'm not advising against striking up conversation out of the blue if you're outgoing enough to make it feel natural.
if you are going the app route, I'd at least suggest to stay off tinder and other known hookup platforms.
"starting a conversation at random wouldn't feel genuine"
That's something you could work on.
I would suggest looking at Wasp Love... it’s a dating site catering to like minded ppl. Just be cautious of how u interact with others. However i haven’t met anyone questionable... yet
"Reformed Christian, Quiverfull, Confederate, Homeschooled, Christian Identity, white nationalism, altright, Sovereign Grace"
that's... quite the mix
I'm 33 and single with no kids, so I'm in no position to give advice.
However, I've had considerable success dating "out of my league".
I don't think we should expect to find women on the the same page as us.
We should seek out women where they are (even if that's on tinder). Women want a strong leader of a man. Be that leader, and pull her into your orbit.
I'm thinking about trying bumble. I know it was founded by a feminist, but it requires that people prove they're real and it doesn't inflate women's egos by having a thousand guys messaging them.
Tinder requires Facebook anyway
@ThisIsChris one of our former FL members actually found his wife on tinder. Probably one in a million chance with that said. I just think no stone should go unturned.
@Tyler0317 this, dude. There's no reason to limit yourself to a BASED SHIELD MAIDEN GF
Who cares if a woman isn't an Identitarian? Who cares if she's not Conservative? As long as she's not a screaching feminist, you can build something solid with her
I don’t think tinder requires fb anymore @TMatthews but it does require your phone number
@John O - eh "who cares" seems a bit too far, though you're probably right that it's not a requirement
it definitely would be an advantage to be politically similar
At the end of the day, it's more about values than specific ideology. Does she want to work or stay home? How many kids does she want to have? Thoughts on homeschooling, vaccination, staying close to extended family, how to raise children, etc