Message from missliterallywho in Nice Respectable People Group #general


2018-08-28 22:32:16 UTC  

There are at least 3 surveys done that show the more sexual partners the more likely the marriage is to fail, and the graph I have defines a stable marriage as only being together 5 years, which isn't long at all

2018-08-28 22:32:20 UTC  

So the serial dater is more likely to divorce than someone who has a bunch of hookups?

2018-08-28 22:32:36 UTC  

@William Russell that's my hypothesis, yes

2018-08-28 22:32:42 UTC  

Makes sense

2018-08-28 22:32:49 UTC  

But I'm sure there's a limit to it

2018-08-28 22:32:57 UTC  

The second person is most likely more intelligent honestly

2018-08-28 22:33:09 UTC  

The T-Swift hypothesis

2018-08-28 22:33:20 UTC  

Hookups could turn into cheating if there were too many before marriage, idk what the threshhold would be

2018-08-28 22:34:01 UTC  

I would assume that sexual promiscuity would have a difference than between purely emotional. non-sexual partners tbh, because the act of intercourse itself is a process that binds two people together. If someone dates 6 people and breaks up with them, and then marries up and has sex with That specific partner, it would be far more serious to that person.
in my opinion of course 👍

2018-08-28 22:35:05 UTC  

Like metaphorically binds?

2018-08-28 22:35:14 UTC  

*metaphysically

2018-08-28 22:35:59 UTC  

Possibly, but also on a biological level as well

2018-08-28 22:36:27 UTC  

We need more studies on this I want to know lol

2018-08-28 22:36:46 UTC  

In some cases the binding might be literal

2018-08-28 22:38:50 UTC  

Biologically I think it makes more sense for people to have multiple sex partners then marry rather than multiple serious relationships then marry. Just because of reproduction. This of course is in the context that everyone has had intercourse with multiple people before marriage. The long term relationships are more likely to lead to children before marriage or stepchildren from other partners

2018-08-28 22:39:13 UTC  

I've never seen evidence that intercourse binds beings biologically if conception does not occur. It's almost impossible to conceive on the first try too (though I'm not arguing in favor of hookups!).

2018-08-28 22:39:35 UTC  

And clearly it doesn't have to bind emotionally either

2018-08-28 22:39:57 UTC  

Conceiving on the first try goes with my point as well.

2018-08-28 22:40:08 UTC  

Is that actually true its harder to concieve the first time you have sex with someone?

2018-08-28 22:40:24 UTC  

Or am I being bamboozled

2018-08-28 22:40:37 UTC  

There are about 3 days per month a woman is fertile. It's a hard target to hit.

2018-08-28 22:41:02 UTC  

It takes 6 months on average to conceive when trying to do so, over age 25

2018-08-28 22:41:31 UTC  

It’s easier if you try every day 😬

2018-08-28 22:41:40 UTC  

*trying without natural family planning methods like temperature charting, etc

2018-08-28 22:44:35 UTC  

I realized when we started trying to get pregnant that I'd really been lied to as a kid in Christian school. The reasons they gave for abstaining were that guaranteed, one of three things would happen: 1. You'll get pregnant 2. You'll get an STD 3. You'll get your heart broken. Turns out, not so much. Better to give kids the truth.

2018-08-28 22:47:30 UTC  

I have 3 daughters with my wife. She got pregnant with the first on our honeymoon, which we took the day after we got married. The 2nd one, she got pregnant within just a couple weeks of me returning from a year in Iraq. The third, she got pregnant with during the week I was home for R&R in the middle of my year in Afghanistan. oooosh

2018-08-28 22:48:25 UTC  

...all 3 born between 2009 and 2012.

2018-08-28 22:48:55 UTC  

Lol her cycle was perfectly aligned with your military schedule eh?

2018-08-28 22:49:07 UTC  

I guess so lol

2018-08-28 22:51:03 UTC  

That same scenario happens a lot in the military, especially with frequent and multiple deployments. It's almost scary when you look at the statistics on how often it happens. Hospitals near military bases deliberately plan ahead 9 months after units return from deployment to ensure they have adequate staffing for the incoming surge of new babies

2018-08-28 22:52:12 UTC  

I wonder if women's bodies deliberately get in sync with their partners' presence when extended absences occur?

2018-08-28 22:52:14 UTC  

Would women anticipating mil members returns affect it

2018-08-28 22:52:29 UTC  

If you’re trying get big, do not go to planet fitness

2018-08-28 22:52:57 UTC  

It's been theorized that human biology does that sort of thing on purpose, and also there's religious theory behind it, too.

2018-08-28 22:53:41 UTC  

I want to see a study of military wives' fertility cycles now lol

2018-08-28 22:54:00 UTC  

@⚡Clark⚡ Why's that?

2018-08-28 22:54:07 UTC  

We already know women living together sync up with one another

2018-08-28 22:54:23 UTC  

Ya seriously, there's case studies out there if you look hard enough. We were given lots of materials to read over pre-deployment that talked about it, but I don't have it anymore

2018-08-28 22:54:32 UTC  

The overwhelmingly low energy environment will kill any chance at making gains or pushing yourself. You can’t even make a grunt without social disapproval @ButMomShesA300YearOldLoliVampire

2018-08-28 22:54:42 UTC  

@ButMomShesA300YearOldLoliVampire they have a company policy of shaming people who lift heavy weights

2018-08-28 22:54:47 UTC  

Its for soyboys and women